Question
AsalamoAlikum Kindly Help me on the following situation. quite some
times my female cousins come to our home. Majority of females in my
famliy and among my cousins do not do proper Hijab and neither do they
take care of mixing. My mother asks me to take her, my sisters , and
cousins to shopping malls or some other public place. Is it allowed
for me to take them in this situation given that they do not do Hijab.
some of them consider Hijab not necessary and consider headcovering
and normal clothes okay. Kindly guide me to the correct application in
this situation. Would it be ok for me to take my family and cousins
given that they abide by shariat rules and I do not interact with my
cousins and just drive? Jazak Allah
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
If a young man goes out with some of his female relatives who do not
wear Hijaab, then this includes some prohibitions, among which are the
following:
- Getting in the car with them involves seeing their beauty and this
is forbidden according to the agreement of the scholarsunless the
woman is a wife or a female Mahram, as Allaah Says )what means(: }Tell
the believing men to lower their gaze )from looking at forbidden
things(, and protect their private parts )from illegal sexual acts(.
That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they
do.{]Quran 24:30[
- Going out with them is like confirming this evil they are doing, and
this is not permissible as it is an obligation to forbid evil as the
Prophetsaid: "Whoever amongst you sees an evil, he should change it
with his hand )i.e. physically(, if he is unable, then he should
change it with his tongue )i.e. verbally( and if he is unable, then he
should change it with his heart )by detesting it in his heart( and
that is the weakest level of faith."]Muslim[ Thus, the
Prophetconsidered changing evil in one's heart as the weakest level of
faith, and denying something with one's heart could only be achieved
by deserting the people who commit sins and staying away from their
company, and it is more confirmed to stay away from them while they
are committing the sin.
- If people see a righteous young man with such girls, they would not
think good of him, and the scholarsclarified that it is an obligation
to stay away from the places of suspicion.
Dear brother, all these disadvantages may happen even when obliging
those girls to abide by the Sharee'ah rulings when dealing with you.
Therefore, we advise you to avoid going out with them, and this is a
very good way of making them feel that what they do is wrong. However,
you should be lenient with your mother and apologize to her in a soft
and gentle manner if she asks you to go out with those girls.
Finally, you should know that the right of Allaah is greater than the
right of anyone else.
Allaah Knows best.
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Fathwa, - Her husband talks to his ex-wife in private
Question
My husband was divorced four years ago and has children from that
marriage. When he talks to his ex-wife, he goes out of the room that
we are in, and talks to her in private. Is this permissible in Islam.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
This woman has become a non-Mahram for your husband as we clarified in
Fatwa 128779, so it is not permissible for him to speak to her except
according to religious conditions, like her wearing Hijaab in front of
him, and him not being in seclusion with her, and her not talking to
him in a soft and attractive manner, and so forth. If he abides by
these conditions, and there is a need to talk to her in private by
phone or in a public place, then it is permissible, like talking to
her about a matter regarding his children from her and the like.
Allaah Knows best.
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My husband was divorced four years ago and has children from that
marriage. When he talks to his ex-wife, he goes out of the room that
we are in, and talks to her in private. Is this permissible in Islam.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
This woman has become a non-Mahram for your husband as we clarified in
Fatwa 128779, so it is not permissible for him to speak to her except
according to religious conditions, like her wearing Hijaab in front of
him, and him not being in seclusion with her, and her not talking to
him in a soft and attractive manner, and so forth. If he abides by
these conditions, and there is a need to talk to her in private by
phone or in a public place, then it is permissible, like talking to
her about a matter regarding his children from her and the like.
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Fathwa, - A Muslim husband leaving his wife with his Muslim friend's family
Question
Assalamou alaykoum, Please helps us, Can my husband let me with their
Muslim family friend in their house during his absence )2-3 days(, is
it Halal in Sharia or no?, we are living in USA, I don't have family
in this country , no children at my home. my husband said me that he
feels is Haram but I don't believe , please clear this matter for us
Jazakoum Allaho khairan
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is permissible for a husband if he travels and the like to leave
his wife with a Muslim family that he trusts.
However, a woman is obliged to abide by the religious requirements,
like not allowing a non-Mahram to be in seclusion with her or
revealing her adornment in front of him, and the like.
Finally, it should be noted that if a husband wants to travel, he is
not permitted to leave his wife in a condition where she might be
exposed to evil and corruption; he should either take her with him or
leave her in a safe place.
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Assalamou alaykoum, Please helps us, Can my husband let me with their
Muslim family friend in their house during his absence )2-3 days(, is
it Halal in Sharia or no?, we are living in USA, I don't have family
in this country , no children at my home. my husband said me that he
feels is Haram but I don't believe , please clear this matter for us
Jazakoum Allaho khairan
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is permissible for a husband if he travels and the like to leave
his wife with a Muslim family that he trusts.
However, a woman is obliged to abide by the religious requirements,
like not allowing a non-Mahram to be in seclusion with her or
revealing her adornment in front of him, and the like.
Finally, it should be noted that if a husband wants to travel, he is
not permitted to leave his wife in a condition where she might be
exposed to evil and corruption; he should either take her with him or
leave her in a safe place.
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General Articles, - Qur'an Related, - The Qur'an: Our Prophet's (saas) Greatest Miracle
Our Prophet's (saas) greatest miracle is the Qur'an, which Allah revealed fourteen centuries ago as a guide for humanity and called everyone to obey to attain salvation:
But it is nothing less than a Reminder to all the worlds. (Surat al-Qalam: 52)
Since that time, the Qur'an's language has been easily understandable by people of every era:
We have made the Qur'an easy to remember. (Surat al-Qamar: 22)
At the same time, its excellent and incomparable literary style, as well as the superior wisdom it contains, are definite proofs that it is the Divine word. Many other miraculous aspects also attest that it is the word of Allah. For example, some scientific facts could only be "discovered" with the aid of modern technology; but their essence was revealed in the Qur'an some 1,400 years ago. Since it was impossible to discover these facts scientifically when the Qur'an was being revealed, it is clear that the Qur'an is Allah's word to humanity.
When the Qur'an was revealed in the seventh century, the Arabs had innumerable myths about what we would consider scientific matters. Lacking the technology to investigate the universe and the world of nature, they believed in myths and legends passed down from generation to generation. For example, they thought that the sky was held up by mountains: Earth was flat, and high mountains located on its two sides acted as columns supporting the vault of the heavens. All of these myths were eradicated with the coming of the Qur'an. For example, the verse reading "Allah is He Who raised up the heavens without any support…" (Surat al-Ra'd: 2)invalidated that particular superstition.
Important knowledge about this and many other matters unknown at that time are given in the Qur'an. When it was sent down, human beings knew very little about astronomy, physics and biology. And yet it contained important knowledge about the creation of the universe and human beings, the components of the atmosphere, and the balance in nature. (For a detailed discussion, see Harun Yahya, The Miracles of the Qur'an, Toronto: Al-Attique Publishers Inc., 2001)
Allah created the universe from nothing and knows all things. The Qur'an, which has a plain and clear style that everyone can understand, was revealed so that people would read and understand it, know the Creator, and know how to serve Him. Allah then elucidated the verses with numerous examples and stories, for "We have not omitted anything from the Book" (Surat al-An'am: 38).The Qur'an is perfect and thus contains much detailed knowledge about both worlds, which it explains in wise terms: "We have sent down to you a Book containing your Reminder. So will you not use your intellect?" (Surat al-Anbiya': 10).
One of the Qur'an's most important aspects is that its original text has remained intact since its revelation: "We have sent down the Reminder and We will preserve it" (Surat al-Hijr: 9).The scriptures revealed before the Qur'an were altered, for various people added, changed, or deleted certain parts. But when a revelation came to our Prophet (saas), Allah miraculously enabled him to memorize it. Immediately afterwards, it was written down by the "recorders of revelation." During Abu Bakr's (ra) reign, the Qur'an became one volume; during Uthman's (ra) reign, copies were made and sent to the major cities of the empire.
General Articles, - Qur'an Related, - What Happened While the Prophet (saas) Was Receiving Revelation
Allah tells us that He told our Prophet (saas) to get up in the night and prepare to receive a revelation, a"weighty Word":
The hadiths inform us about how extraordinary it is to receive a revelation and of the marvellous spiritual things the Prophet (saas) experienced in his room. We learn that when the revelations came, those who were with him heard a sound like a bee buzzing around his face. Sahih al-Bukhari states:
Aisha narrated: "Al-Harith ibn Hisham asked the Prophet (saas): 'How does the revelation come to you?' He replied: 'In all of that the angel comes to me, sometimes with a voice that resembles the sound of a ringing bell. When this state abandons me, I remember what the angel has said. This type of revelation is the hardest on me. Sometimes the angel comes to me in the shape of a man and talks to me, and I understand and remember what he says.'" 3
Aisha narrated: "I saw the Prophet (saas) receive revelation on a very cold day and noticed the sweat dropping from his forehead." 4
Zayd ibn Thabit narrated: "I wrote down Allah's revelations to the Prophet (saas). When the revelation came to him, he felt a great weariness and had beads of sweat like pearls. When the state of revelation ended, he recited and I would write." 5
Abu Hurayrah narrated: "When the revelation came from Allah to the Prophet (saas), it was as if he had fainted." 6
Footnotes
1. Sahih Al-Bukhari, vol. 9, book 87, hadith no. 111
2. Sahih Al-Bukhari
3. Al-Bukhari
4. Al-Bukhari and al-Tirmidhi
5. At-Tabarani
6. Abu Nu'aym
General Articles, - Qur'an Related, - The Prophet's (saas) Miracles
As Allah says, He sent our Prophet (saas) as the last prophet to humanity: "… the Messenger of Allah and the Final Seal of the Prophets" (Surat al-Ahzab: 40). This blessed man delivered the final revelation and serves as humanity's role model because of his goodness, piety, and closeness to Allah. He is a friend of Allah, and the friend and advocate of believers. Allah tells us that He entrusted our Prophet (saas) with a great responsibility:
We will impose a weighty Word upon you. (Surat al-Muzzammil: 5)
With his powerful faith in Allah, the Prophet (saas) carried out his responsibility perfectly by inviting humanity to follow the Way of Allah and serving as their guide. The Revelation of the Qur'an
According to Islamic and historical texts, Allah bestowed prophethood upon the Prophet Muhammad (saas) when he was forty years old. But even before that time, certain miraculous events took place. For example, his dreams came true. The hadiths say that these dreams lasted for about six months. The eminent Islamic scholar Imam al-Bukhari relates:
The commencement of the Divine inspiration to the Messenger of Allah was in the form of good righteous (true) dreams in his sleep. He never had a dream but that it came true like bright daylight. 1
A copy of the Qur'an from 1790 CE (1205 AH) written in the Naskhi style. Classic style layout, every page containing seventeen lines. Ruled in gold, leather binding from the time. (Suleyman Tevfik)
The hadiths tell us that when he turned forty, he would often go by himself to the Cave of Hira' (Ghar Hira) in Jabal al-Nur (the Mountain of Light), which was located about twelve kilometers from Mecca. During the Ramadan of his third annual retreat, Allah granted the Prophet Muhammad (saas) the rank of prophet by sending Gabriel to reveal some Qur'anic verses to him. The first revelation was given on August 10, 610 CE (Monday night, 21 Ramadan).
This was certainly a wonderful grace from Allah. Our Prophet (saas) was blessed; he was an able, good, and a man of deep faith; had a degree of fear and respect toward Allah; and was worthy of this honor:
… but for a mercy from your Lord. His favor to you is indeed immense. (Surat al-Isra': 87)
You did not expect to be given the Book. It is nothing but a mercy from your Lord ... (Surat al-Qasas: 86)
The fact that his dreams came true is one proof that our dear Prophet (saas) was chosen by Allah. Islamic scholars interpret this as meaning that Allah prepared him for this great responsibility while he slept. After these dreams, the Prophet (saas) received the first revelation and was entrusted with guiding humanity to the true path. He continued to do so, with great determination, until he died.
The hadiths relate the miraculous events that occurred before he received the first revelation:
Aisha narrated: The first thing with which the revelation began for the Messenger of Allah was correct dreams in sleep. He never saw a dream but that it came like the breaking of the dawn. He used to go in seclusion to (the cave of) Hira', where he used to worship (Allah alone) continuously for many nights. He used to take provision with him for that (stay) and then like-wise come back to Khadijah to take his food again for another period. Then suddenly the Truth descended upon him while he was in the cave of Hira'. The angel came to him and asked him to read.
The Prophet replied: "I do not know how to read" (and added:) "The angel caught me (forcefully) and pressed me so hard that I could not bear it anymore. He then released me and again asked me to read, and I replied: 'I do not know how to read,' whereupon he caught me again and pressed me a second time until I could not bear it anymore. He then released me and asked me again to read, but again I replied: 'I do not know how to read (or, what shall I read?).' Thereupon he caught me for the third time and pressed me and then released me and said: 'Read: In the Name of your Lord, Who has created, has created humanity from a [blood] clot. Read, and Your Lord is Most Generous, He Who taught by the pen, taught man what he did not know.' (Surat al-'Alaq: 1-5)" Then Allah's Messenger returned with it… 2
We are told in the Qur'an about his conversation with Gabriel and the revelation of the Qur'an to him. It is revealed in Surat al-Najm that Gabriel taught the Qur'an to the Prophet (saas):
Your companion is not misguided or misled; nor does he speak from whim. It is nothing but Revelation revealed, taught to him by one immensely strong. (Surat al-Najm: 2-5)
We also learn of the wondrous events that occurred as Gabriel transmitted the Qur'an to the Prophet (saas):
… possessing power and splendor. He [Gabriel] stood there stationary, there on the highest horizon. Then he drew near and hung suspended. He was two bow-lengths away or even closer. Then He [Allah] revealed to His servant what He revealed. His [Muhammad's] heart did not lie about what he saw. What! Do you dispute with him about what he saw? (Surat al-Najm: 6-12)
It is also stated in several other verses that Gabriel, also called the "Purest Spirit" or the "Faithful Spirit," delivered the revelation:
It does not befit Allah to address any human being except by inspiration, or from behind a veil, or He sends a messenger who then reveals by His permission whatever He wills. He is indeed Most High, All-Wise. (Surat al-Shura: 51)
Say: "Anyone who is Jibril's enemy should know that it was he who brought it [the Qur'an] down upon your heart, by Allah's authority, confirming what came before, and as guidance and good news for the believers." (Surat al-Baqarah: 97)
Say: "The Purest Spirit has brought it down from your Lord with truth, to make those who have faith firm, and as guidance and good news for the Muslims." (Surat al-Nahl: 102)
Truly it is revelation sent down by the Lord of all the worlds. The Faithful Spirit brought it down to your heart so you would be one of the Warners. (Surat al-Shu'ara': 192-194)
There is a tradition that the revelations ceased for a while after the first verses had been revealed. The hadiths tell us that when the revelations resumed, the first verses he received were the opening verses of Surat al-Muddaththir. After that, the Prophet (saas) assumed his responsibility of proclaiming the revelation. Later, by a command from Allah, he told people to have faith only in Allah and not to make any creature His equal:
O you who are enveloped in your cloak, arise and warn. Magnify your Lord. (Surat al-Muddaththir: 1-3)
It is also said in Surat al-Shura 194 that revelations were placed in the Prophet's (saas) heart. In addition, Allah caused him to memorize the Qur'an: "We will cause you to recite so that you do not forget" (Surat al-A'la: 6). His ability to memorize the Qur'an in this way was another one of his miracles.
The verses of the Qur'an were rooted in the Prophet's (saas) heart, and he spent his whole life proclaiming them. In Surat al-A'la 8, "We will ease you to the Easy Way,"Allah announced that He is the Prophet's (saas) helper and will give him success. Allah tells us that He is the blessed mesenger's constant Helper: "It is Our duty to help the belivers" (Surat al-Rum: 47). He refreshed the Prophet's (saas) heart and created marvellous things in his mind and memory. He tells us that it is He Who enabled the Prophet (saas) to recite and remember all of its verses:
Do not move your tongue trying to hasten it. Its collection and recitation are Our affair. So when We recite it, follow its recitation. Then its explanation is Our concern. (Surat al-Qiyamah: 16-19)
Clearly, Allah placed the Qur'an's verses in his memory in a special way:
High exalted be Allah, the King, the Real! Do not rush ahead with the Qur'an before its revelation to you is complete, and say: "My Lord, increase me in knowledge." (Surah Ta Ha: 114)
With his love and lively faith in Allah, our Prophet (saas) willingly and wholeheartedly obeyed all of His commands. Allah made him powerful and gave him success, granted him many blessings, and made him special in both worlds.
We will impose a weighty Word upon you. (Surat al-Muzzammil: 5)
With his powerful faith in Allah, the Prophet (saas) carried out his responsibility perfectly by inviting humanity to follow the Way of Allah and serving as their guide. The Revelation of the Qur'an
According to Islamic and historical texts, Allah bestowed prophethood upon the Prophet Muhammad (saas) when he was forty years old. But even before that time, certain miraculous events took place. For example, his dreams came true. The hadiths say that these dreams lasted for about six months. The eminent Islamic scholar Imam al-Bukhari relates:
The commencement of the Divine inspiration to the Messenger of Allah was in the form of good righteous (true) dreams in his sleep. He never had a dream but that it came true like bright daylight. 1
A copy of the Qur'an from 1790 CE (1205 AH) written in the Naskhi style. Classic style layout, every page containing seventeen lines. Ruled in gold, leather binding from the time. (Suleyman Tevfik)
The hadiths tell us that when he turned forty, he would often go by himself to the Cave of Hira' (Ghar Hira) in Jabal al-Nur (the Mountain of Light), which was located about twelve kilometers from Mecca. During the Ramadan of his third annual retreat, Allah granted the Prophet Muhammad (saas) the rank of prophet by sending Gabriel to reveal some Qur'anic verses to him. The first revelation was given on August 10, 610 CE (Monday night, 21 Ramadan).
This was certainly a wonderful grace from Allah. Our Prophet (saas) was blessed; he was an able, good, and a man of deep faith; had a degree of fear and respect toward Allah; and was worthy of this honor:
… but for a mercy from your Lord. His favor to you is indeed immense. (Surat al-Isra': 87)
You did not expect to be given the Book. It is nothing but a mercy from your Lord ... (Surat al-Qasas: 86)
The fact that his dreams came true is one proof that our dear Prophet (saas) was chosen by Allah. Islamic scholars interpret this as meaning that Allah prepared him for this great responsibility while he slept. After these dreams, the Prophet (saas) received the first revelation and was entrusted with guiding humanity to the true path. He continued to do so, with great determination, until he died.
The hadiths relate the miraculous events that occurred before he received the first revelation:
Aisha narrated: The first thing with which the revelation began for the Messenger of Allah was correct dreams in sleep. He never saw a dream but that it came like the breaking of the dawn. He used to go in seclusion to (the cave of) Hira', where he used to worship (Allah alone) continuously for many nights. He used to take provision with him for that (stay) and then like-wise come back to Khadijah to take his food again for another period. Then suddenly the Truth descended upon him while he was in the cave of Hira'. The angel came to him and asked him to read.
The Prophet replied: "I do not know how to read" (and added:) "The angel caught me (forcefully) and pressed me so hard that I could not bear it anymore. He then released me and again asked me to read, and I replied: 'I do not know how to read,' whereupon he caught me again and pressed me a second time until I could not bear it anymore. He then released me and asked me again to read, but again I replied: 'I do not know how to read (or, what shall I read?).' Thereupon he caught me for the third time and pressed me and then released me and said: 'Read: In the Name of your Lord, Who has created, has created humanity from a [blood] clot. Read, and Your Lord is Most Generous, He Who taught by the pen, taught man what he did not know.' (Surat al-'Alaq: 1-5)" Then Allah's Messenger returned with it… 2
We are told in the Qur'an about his conversation with Gabriel and the revelation of the Qur'an to him. It is revealed in Surat al-Najm that Gabriel taught the Qur'an to the Prophet (saas):
Your companion is not misguided or misled; nor does he speak from whim. It is nothing but Revelation revealed, taught to him by one immensely strong. (Surat al-Najm: 2-5)
We also learn of the wondrous events that occurred as Gabriel transmitted the Qur'an to the Prophet (saas):
… possessing power and splendor. He [Gabriel] stood there stationary, there on the highest horizon. Then he drew near and hung suspended. He was two bow-lengths away or even closer. Then He [Allah] revealed to His servant what He revealed. His [Muhammad's] heart did not lie about what he saw. What! Do you dispute with him about what he saw? (Surat al-Najm: 6-12)
It is also stated in several other verses that Gabriel, also called the "Purest Spirit" or the "Faithful Spirit," delivered the revelation:
It does not befit Allah to address any human being except by inspiration, or from behind a veil, or He sends a messenger who then reveals by His permission whatever He wills. He is indeed Most High, All-Wise. (Surat al-Shura: 51)
Say: "Anyone who is Jibril's enemy should know that it was he who brought it [the Qur'an] down upon your heart, by Allah's authority, confirming what came before, and as guidance and good news for the believers." (Surat al-Baqarah: 97)
Say: "The Purest Spirit has brought it down from your Lord with truth, to make those who have faith firm, and as guidance and good news for the Muslims." (Surat al-Nahl: 102)
Truly it is revelation sent down by the Lord of all the worlds. The Faithful Spirit brought it down to your heart so you would be one of the Warners. (Surat al-Shu'ara': 192-194)
There is a tradition that the revelations ceased for a while after the first verses had been revealed. The hadiths tell us that when the revelations resumed, the first verses he received were the opening verses of Surat al-Muddaththir. After that, the Prophet (saas) assumed his responsibility of proclaiming the revelation. Later, by a command from Allah, he told people to have faith only in Allah and not to make any creature His equal:
O you who are enveloped in your cloak, arise and warn. Magnify your Lord. (Surat al-Muddaththir: 1-3)
It is also said in Surat al-Shura 194 that revelations were placed in the Prophet's (saas) heart. In addition, Allah caused him to memorize the Qur'an: "We will cause you to recite so that you do not forget" (Surat al-A'la: 6). His ability to memorize the Qur'an in this way was another one of his miracles.
The verses of the Qur'an were rooted in the Prophet's (saas) heart, and he spent his whole life proclaiming them. In Surat al-A'la 8, "We will ease you to the Easy Way,"Allah announced that He is the Prophet's (saas) helper and will give him success. Allah tells us that He is the blessed mesenger's constant Helper: "It is Our duty to help the belivers" (Surat al-Rum: 47). He refreshed the Prophet's (saas) heart and created marvellous things in his mind and memory. He tells us that it is He Who enabled the Prophet (saas) to recite and remember all of its verses:
Do not move your tongue trying to hasten it. Its collection and recitation are Our affair. So when We recite it, follow its recitation. Then its explanation is Our concern. (Surat al-Qiyamah: 16-19)
Clearly, Allah placed the Qur'an's verses in his memory in a special way:
High exalted be Allah, the King, the Real! Do not rush ahead with the Qur'an before its revelation to you is complete, and say: "My Lord, increase me in knowledge." (Surah Ta Ha: 114)
With his love and lively faith in Allah, our Prophet (saas) willingly and wholeheartedly obeyed all of His commands. Allah made him powerful and gave him success, granted him many blessings, and made him special in both worlds.
Health and Fitness, - How to maintain a healthy home
Health is a blessing from Allaah The Almighty, the virtue of which is
not recognized by many people. The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam,said:"There are two blessings which many people waste: )they
are( health and free time )for doing good(."]Al-Bukhaari, At-Tirmithi
and Ibn Maajah[Health is a crown that adorns healthy people, so the
Muslim family should take care of the following things in order to
enjoy good health:
Discipline is the key to the health of a Muslim home and is required
in all aspects of life such as sleeping and eating well.
Living in a well-ventilated house which lets in plenty of air and
sunlight is also necessary, as they are important for health.
Having natural plants inside and around the house, as they purify the
air and provide more oxygen.
Maintaining a moderate temperature in the home.
Maintaining cleanliness is one of the most important factors for good health.
Having furniture which meets health and safety standards to ensure the
comfort of family members.
Bearing in mind that 'prevention is better than cure'.
Taking all family members for regular health check-ups in order to
avoid epidemics and seasonal outbreaks of diseases.
Taking the necessary precautions to prevent illnesses, such as
following a schedule for vaccines and various prophylactic medicines.
Wearing comfortable clothes that would not prevent blood circulation
in the body. Also, wearing heavy clothes in the winterand light
clothesin the summer.
Following health instructions when standing, sitting, sleeping,
ascending or descending the stairs, watching television and carrying
or lifting heavy things.
Eating abalanced dietthat contains all the nutritional elements that
are necessary for the body. Food should meet the nutritional
requirements for every family member according to their age and
health.
Necessary nutritional elements:
The types of essential nutrients necessary for the body and the kinds
of food that contain them:
Proteins:They help in building the body as they provide it with the
compounds that the body needs in order to grow and compensate the body
for the tissues that it loses. Therefore, proteins are necessary for
children as their deficiency slows down the process of building and
renewing body tissues. Proteins can be found in meat, fish, eggs,
milk,soya beans,lima beans, peas etc.
Carbohydrates and Fats:These provide the body with the energy it needs
in order to move and exert physical effort. One should not eat a lot
of this kind of food as it may lead toobesity. Foods that contain
carbohydrates are cereals such as wheat, corn and rice, fruit, jam,
candy, potatoes, taro etc. Animal fats such as butter and ghee
andvegetable fatssuch asolive,cornand cottonseed oilare also rich
sources of energy.
Vitamins andMinerals:They protect the body from diseases and increase
its vitality. They can be found in vegetables, fruit, nuts and fish.
Some bad nutritional habits:
Drinking tea orstimulantswhile eating or directly after a meal. This
prevents the absorption of iron and causes anemia. Thus, it is better
to drink tea two hours or more after eating.
Failing to chew food well overstrains the stomach and causes indigestion.
Eating a lot ofhot, spicy foodcauses gastric ulcers.
Eating too much fried food that is cooked in fats causes indigestion
and overstrains thedigestive system.
Not having breakfast weakens the body and lowers energy levels.
Drinking soda or water while eating causes indigestion as it decreases
the secretion and efficacy ofgastric juices.
Hands should be washed before eating or preparing food. Hair should
not be combed in the kitchen so that it does not fall into the food.
Some health tips while cooking:
Refreezing meat and fish more than once spoils them. Thus, they should
be cut and divided into packs each of which would be sufficient for
one meal.
Salad should be prepared immediately before a meal so that it does not
lose its vitamins because of being exposed to the air.
Oil should not be used for frying more than twice, and it should be
filtered in order to remove impurities.
Water used for boiling vegetables can be reused, except that which has
been used for boiling cabbage, potatoes and cauliflower.
Meat, chicken and fish should be seasoned with onion and lemon before
frying or grilling, then salt and spices should be added after that.
If cooked food isover salted,the extra salt can be absorbed by addinga
whole potatothen removing it after it is cooked.
The nutrients of certain vegetables like potatoes, squash, carrots and
eggplant lie on the surface, so they should not beover peeledin order
to preserve their nutritional value.
When cooking food that has a mucilaginous consistency such as
okraortaro, lemon juice should be added to the water before adding the
vegetables in order to preserve its nutritional value.
Healthy posture while working:
When lifting something heavy, it is preferable to bend the knees while
keeping one's body in an upright position.
When carrying heavy objects, they should be held as near to the body
as possible.
When hanging clothes on a clothesline, wet clothes should be put in a
laundry basket or bucket on a chair or a high table in order to avoid
bending many times.
When sweeping or wiping the floor, the appliances used should be of a
suitable length in order to avoid too much bending.
When pushing something heavy, the force of pushing should be at the
center of the item being pushed.
When sitting down to do some work, one must ensure that the height of
the table and the chair are suitable for the nature of the task and
provide adequate support to the body.
First Aid:
Do not consume or administer any medicine unless one is sure that it
is suitable for that particular ailment, and use it only after
consulting a doctor.
In case of a fracture or sprain, one should go to the nearest hospital
so that the doctor can make a splint for the patient.
If any foreign body penetrates the skin such as a piece of glass,
wood, or nail, it should be taken out of the body by tweezers then a
disinfectant should be put on the affected part. If it is difficult to
take out the foreign body, one should go to the nearest hospital or
clinic to do the necessary treatment.
It is preferable not to use any medicines for the eye or the ear
except after consulting a doctor.
Home pharmacy:
Having a first aid kit at home is necessary in order to help an
injured person quickly until the doctor arrives or until the patient
is taken to the hospital. It is not necessary that one of family
members be a doctor or a pharmacist in order to prepare this kit.
However, one should take the following factors into consideration:
The first aid kit should bekept out of reach of childrenin order
toprevent poisoning in childrenas a result of them mistakenly taking
medications while thinking they are some kind of candy. This is
especially necessary nowadays since medicine packages tend to be
attractive and colorful, and often lack safety catches that cannot be
opened by children.
The home first aid kit should consist of separate racks for different
types of medications. For instance, one rack may contain medicines to
treat burns and injuries, the second one may contain bandages and so
forth, while the third one may contain eye drops and ointments
prescribed by the doctor, another rack may contain medicines taken
orally.
It is preferable to have a special first aid kit for children's medications.
The first aid kit should be kept in a well-ventilated place that is
neither hot nor humid. Some medicines have to be kept in the
refrigerator, so there must be a special area assigned for this in
the refrigerator if possible, which is kept out of reach of children.
The name of the medicine should be written in clear and readable
handwriting on the packages in which they are placed, if necessary.
If several members of the family are sick at the same time, the name
of each patient should be written on their medicine in order to avoid
confusion.
Patients should take the prescribed dosage at the times specified by
the doctor and the pharmacist. They should not stop taking the
medicine prescribed by the doctor until the doctor has been consulted.
Patients should not retake the medicine without consulting the doctor.
If taking any medicine results in an allergy such as a rash or redness
of the skin, the patient should stop taking the medicine at once, then
consult the doctor or the pharmacist as soon as possible in order to
avoid any complications.
If one of the family members uses medications for chronic conditions
such as diabetes, blood pressure, gastric ulcer, rheumatism etc., such
medicines should be kept in a separate corner of the home first aid
kit. These medicines should only be opened by the patient personally
or by the person who gives him the medicine so that they would not be
confused with other medicines.
The home first aid kit should contain a disinfectant, scissors,
tweezers, gloves,bandages, a gauze bandage, plaster, cotton and a
thermometer.
not recognized by many people. The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam,said:"There are two blessings which many people waste: )they
are( health and free time )for doing good(."]Al-Bukhaari, At-Tirmithi
and Ibn Maajah[Health is a crown that adorns healthy people, so the
Muslim family should take care of the following things in order to
enjoy good health:
Discipline is the key to the health of a Muslim home and is required
in all aspects of life such as sleeping and eating well.
Living in a well-ventilated house which lets in plenty of air and
sunlight is also necessary, as they are important for health.
Having natural plants inside and around the house, as they purify the
air and provide more oxygen.
Maintaining a moderate temperature in the home.
Maintaining cleanliness is one of the most important factors for good health.
Having furniture which meets health and safety standards to ensure the
comfort of family members.
Bearing in mind that 'prevention is better than cure'.
Taking all family members for regular health check-ups in order to
avoid epidemics and seasonal outbreaks of diseases.
Taking the necessary precautions to prevent illnesses, such as
following a schedule for vaccines and various prophylactic medicines.
Wearing comfortable clothes that would not prevent blood circulation
in the body. Also, wearing heavy clothes in the winterand light
clothesin the summer.
Following health instructions when standing, sitting, sleeping,
ascending or descending the stairs, watching television and carrying
or lifting heavy things.
Eating abalanced dietthat contains all the nutritional elements that
are necessary for the body. Food should meet the nutritional
requirements for every family member according to their age and
health.
Necessary nutritional elements:
The types of essential nutrients necessary for the body and the kinds
of food that contain them:
Proteins:They help in building the body as they provide it with the
compounds that the body needs in order to grow and compensate the body
for the tissues that it loses. Therefore, proteins are necessary for
children as their deficiency slows down the process of building and
renewing body tissues. Proteins can be found in meat, fish, eggs,
milk,soya beans,lima beans, peas etc.
Carbohydrates and Fats:These provide the body with the energy it needs
in order to move and exert physical effort. One should not eat a lot
of this kind of food as it may lead toobesity. Foods that contain
carbohydrates are cereals such as wheat, corn and rice, fruit, jam,
candy, potatoes, taro etc. Animal fats such as butter and ghee
andvegetable fatssuch asolive,cornand cottonseed oilare also rich
sources of energy.
Vitamins andMinerals:They protect the body from diseases and increase
its vitality. They can be found in vegetables, fruit, nuts and fish.
Some bad nutritional habits:
Drinking tea orstimulantswhile eating or directly after a meal. This
prevents the absorption of iron and causes anemia. Thus, it is better
to drink tea two hours or more after eating.
Failing to chew food well overstrains the stomach and causes indigestion.
Eating a lot ofhot, spicy foodcauses gastric ulcers.
Eating too much fried food that is cooked in fats causes indigestion
and overstrains thedigestive system.
Not having breakfast weakens the body and lowers energy levels.
Drinking soda or water while eating causes indigestion as it decreases
the secretion and efficacy ofgastric juices.
Hands should be washed before eating or preparing food. Hair should
not be combed in the kitchen so that it does not fall into the food.
Some health tips while cooking:
Refreezing meat and fish more than once spoils them. Thus, they should
be cut and divided into packs each of which would be sufficient for
one meal.
Salad should be prepared immediately before a meal so that it does not
lose its vitamins because of being exposed to the air.
Oil should not be used for frying more than twice, and it should be
filtered in order to remove impurities.
Water used for boiling vegetables can be reused, except that which has
been used for boiling cabbage, potatoes and cauliflower.
Meat, chicken and fish should be seasoned with onion and lemon before
frying or grilling, then salt and spices should be added after that.
If cooked food isover salted,the extra salt can be absorbed by addinga
whole potatothen removing it after it is cooked.
The nutrients of certain vegetables like potatoes, squash, carrots and
eggplant lie on the surface, so they should not beover peeledin order
to preserve their nutritional value.
When cooking food that has a mucilaginous consistency such as
okraortaro, lemon juice should be added to the water before adding the
vegetables in order to preserve its nutritional value.
Healthy posture while working:
When lifting something heavy, it is preferable to bend the knees while
keeping one's body in an upright position.
When carrying heavy objects, they should be held as near to the body
as possible.
When hanging clothes on a clothesline, wet clothes should be put in a
laundry basket or bucket on a chair or a high table in order to avoid
bending many times.
When sweeping or wiping the floor, the appliances used should be of a
suitable length in order to avoid too much bending.
When pushing something heavy, the force of pushing should be at the
center of the item being pushed.
When sitting down to do some work, one must ensure that the height of
the table and the chair are suitable for the nature of the task and
provide adequate support to the body.
First Aid:
Do not consume or administer any medicine unless one is sure that it
is suitable for that particular ailment, and use it only after
consulting a doctor.
In case of a fracture or sprain, one should go to the nearest hospital
so that the doctor can make a splint for the patient.
If any foreign body penetrates the skin such as a piece of glass,
wood, or nail, it should be taken out of the body by tweezers then a
disinfectant should be put on the affected part. If it is difficult to
take out the foreign body, one should go to the nearest hospital or
clinic to do the necessary treatment.
It is preferable not to use any medicines for the eye or the ear
except after consulting a doctor.
Home pharmacy:
Having a first aid kit at home is necessary in order to help an
injured person quickly until the doctor arrives or until the patient
is taken to the hospital. It is not necessary that one of family
members be a doctor or a pharmacist in order to prepare this kit.
However, one should take the following factors into consideration:
The first aid kit should bekept out of reach of childrenin order
toprevent poisoning in childrenas a result of them mistakenly taking
medications while thinking they are some kind of candy. This is
especially necessary nowadays since medicine packages tend to be
attractive and colorful, and often lack safety catches that cannot be
opened by children.
The home first aid kit should consist of separate racks for different
types of medications. For instance, one rack may contain medicines to
treat burns and injuries, the second one may contain bandages and so
forth, while the third one may contain eye drops and ointments
prescribed by the doctor, another rack may contain medicines taken
orally.
It is preferable to have a special first aid kit for children's medications.
The first aid kit should be kept in a well-ventilated place that is
neither hot nor humid. Some medicines have to be kept in the
refrigerator, so there must be a special area assigned for this in
the refrigerator if possible, which is kept out of reach of children.
The name of the medicine should be written in clear and readable
handwriting on the packages in which they are placed, if necessary.
If several members of the family are sick at the same time, the name
of each patient should be written on their medicine in order to avoid
confusion.
Patients should take the prescribed dosage at the times specified by
the doctor and the pharmacist. They should not stop taking the
medicine prescribed by the doctor until the doctor has been consulted.
Patients should not retake the medicine without consulting the doctor.
If taking any medicine results in an allergy such as a rash or redness
of the skin, the patient should stop taking the medicine at once, then
consult the doctor or the pharmacist as soon as possible in order to
avoid any complications.
If one of the family members uses medications for chronic conditions
such as diabetes, blood pressure, gastric ulcer, rheumatism etc., such
medicines should be kept in a separate corner of the home first aid
kit. These medicines should only be opened by the patient personally
or by the person who gives him the medicine so that they would not be
confused with other medicines.
The home first aid kit should contain a disinfectant, scissors,
tweezers, gloves,bandages, a gauze bandage, plaster, cotton and a
thermometer.
Health and Fitness, - The Dangers of Contraceptives
This is a message to Muslim men and women who love Allaah The Almighty
and His Messenger and the practice of what He revealed to His selected
and noble Messenger, Muhammad ibn 'Abdullaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, the trusted and honest Messenger, which includes abstention
from all forbidden and doubtful things. This message is advice to
theUmmah)nation( and a reminder of all that includes goodness and
reform for Muslims concerning their religion and worldly affairs, in
compliance with the saying of the Messenger,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam:"Verily, religion is advice."People said:"To whom, O Messenger
of Allaah?" He said:"To Allaah, His Book, His Messenger, the leaders
of the Muslims, and to their general folk."
It is, therefore, necessary to remind people of everything that they
do not realize and to warn them against every evil which they may fall
into. Also, a Muslim individual should love for his fellow Muslim the
like of what he loves for his own self, in fulfillment of the saying
of the Messenger,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam:"None of you will be a
)true( believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for
himself."
Keeping this in mind, it is worth mentioning that there are some
medical problems that many people experience, and which very few
people escape, that arise as a result of significant violations of
theSharee'ah)Islamic legislation(. I am concentrating here on the
problems that pertain to health. It is enough to provide the following
noble verse as evidence on the behavior that harms one's health. It
reads )what means(:}And do not throw ]yourselves[ with your ]own[
hands into destruction.{]Quran 2:195[ There is ample evidence that
forbids harming oneself, but this verse is sufficient here so that the
introduction will not be lengthy.
The behavior that we are referring to is some standard methods of
birth control )which is also called family planning(, especially the
methods that are used by most people owing to the low rate of failure
in using them. These methods include contraceptive pills, loops, and
injections. The other methods such as coitus interruptus, male
condoms, female diaphragms, and periodic calculation were not
established to have had negative impacts whether from the medical
orSharee'ahpoint of view.
The permanent use of such methods over a long period of time, although
having almost sure results, has dire health consequences in the long
run. By the grace of Allaah The Almighty, these consequences were
established after scientific studies were conducted in search of side
effects of each medicine or contraceptive method. I would like to
remind readers of some of these side effects so that they, especially
married people who use such methods, will be fully aware of them. I
will mention the dangers of each method in brief.
Contraceptive pills:
·They damage the vascular walls, which may lead to thrombosis,
spontaneous cerebral bleeding, myocardial infarction, in addition to
other symptoms associated with the vulnerability of the blood vessels
that are deployed throughout the body, such as hypertension and
others.
They cause disorders in the carbohydrate metabolism, which leads to
obesity )they cause a weight gain of up to three kg. of weight( They
also lead to some cancers, particularly breast cancer which has become
widespread in developing countries due to the large-scale use of
contraceptives.
·They also lead to less serious symptoms such as vomiting, breast
pain, hormonal disorders leading to hair growth in different parts of
the body, decreased volume of menstrual blood, heaviness in the legs,
vaginal dryness )which leads to difficult and painful sexual
intercourse(, and they sometimes cause sexual disorders.
Monthly hormonal injections:
·They usually cause Menorrhagia )heavy bleeding( in women who use them.
·They sometimes cause Amenorrhea )absence of menstrual flow without
pregnancy( or menstrual disorders.
·They cause obesity.
·They lead to metabolic disorders.
Loops/ Intra-Uterine Devices )IUD( of all types:
·They cause heavy bleeding.
·They may cause infection, which takes place in 3 to 9 percent of
cases. Treatment of infection is difficult and it entails removing the
loop.
·They cause pelvic pain.
·They may sometimes cause a rupture in the uterine wall during
insertion. In rare cases, the loop may migrate from the uterus to the
urinary bladder or within the abdomen after a long period of time.
·Loops may cause sterility, since its contraceptive action is due to
the fact that it causes chronic irritation in the uterine walls, which
may cause it to lose its natural characteristics of receiving the
fertilized ovum.
Pills and loops are the most commonly used contraceptives. As for
injections, most women cannot tolerate their side-effects, and their
efficacy is less than the two previously-mentioned contraceptives.
These are the medical side effects of such contraceptives. As for the
use of contraceptives from the perspective of theSharee'ah, that is
subject to further research on this subject.
and His Messenger and the practice of what He revealed to His selected
and noble Messenger, Muhammad ibn 'Abdullaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, the trusted and honest Messenger, which includes abstention
from all forbidden and doubtful things. This message is advice to
theUmmah)nation( and a reminder of all that includes goodness and
reform for Muslims concerning their religion and worldly affairs, in
compliance with the saying of the Messenger,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam:"Verily, religion is advice."People said:"To whom, O Messenger
of Allaah?" He said:"To Allaah, His Book, His Messenger, the leaders
of the Muslims, and to their general folk."
It is, therefore, necessary to remind people of everything that they
do not realize and to warn them against every evil which they may fall
into. Also, a Muslim individual should love for his fellow Muslim the
like of what he loves for his own self, in fulfillment of the saying
of the Messenger,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam:"None of you will be a
)true( believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for
himself."
Keeping this in mind, it is worth mentioning that there are some
medical problems that many people experience, and which very few
people escape, that arise as a result of significant violations of
theSharee'ah)Islamic legislation(. I am concentrating here on the
problems that pertain to health. It is enough to provide the following
noble verse as evidence on the behavior that harms one's health. It
reads )what means(:}And do not throw ]yourselves[ with your ]own[
hands into destruction.{]Quran 2:195[ There is ample evidence that
forbids harming oneself, but this verse is sufficient here so that the
introduction will not be lengthy.
The behavior that we are referring to is some standard methods of
birth control )which is also called family planning(, especially the
methods that are used by most people owing to the low rate of failure
in using them. These methods include contraceptive pills, loops, and
injections. The other methods such as coitus interruptus, male
condoms, female diaphragms, and periodic calculation were not
established to have had negative impacts whether from the medical
orSharee'ahpoint of view.
The permanent use of such methods over a long period of time, although
having almost sure results, has dire health consequences in the long
run. By the grace of Allaah The Almighty, these consequences were
established after scientific studies were conducted in search of side
effects of each medicine or contraceptive method. I would like to
remind readers of some of these side effects so that they, especially
married people who use such methods, will be fully aware of them. I
will mention the dangers of each method in brief.
Contraceptive pills:
·They damage the vascular walls, which may lead to thrombosis,
spontaneous cerebral bleeding, myocardial infarction, in addition to
other symptoms associated with the vulnerability of the blood vessels
that are deployed throughout the body, such as hypertension and
others.
They cause disorders in the carbohydrate metabolism, which leads to
obesity )they cause a weight gain of up to three kg. of weight( They
also lead to some cancers, particularly breast cancer which has become
widespread in developing countries due to the large-scale use of
contraceptives.
·They also lead to less serious symptoms such as vomiting, breast
pain, hormonal disorders leading to hair growth in different parts of
the body, decreased volume of menstrual blood, heaviness in the legs,
vaginal dryness )which leads to difficult and painful sexual
intercourse(, and they sometimes cause sexual disorders.
Monthly hormonal injections:
·They usually cause Menorrhagia )heavy bleeding( in women who use them.
·They sometimes cause Amenorrhea )absence of menstrual flow without
pregnancy( or menstrual disorders.
·They cause obesity.
·They lead to metabolic disorders.
Loops/ Intra-Uterine Devices )IUD( of all types:
·They cause heavy bleeding.
·They may cause infection, which takes place in 3 to 9 percent of
cases. Treatment of infection is difficult and it entails removing the
loop.
·They cause pelvic pain.
·They may sometimes cause a rupture in the uterine wall during
insertion. In rare cases, the loop may migrate from the uterus to the
urinary bladder or within the abdomen after a long period of time.
·Loops may cause sterility, since its contraceptive action is due to
the fact that it causes chronic irritation in the uterine walls, which
may cause it to lose its natural characteristics of receiving the
fertilized ovum.
Pills and loops are the most commonly used contraceptives. As for
injections, most women cannot tolerate their side-effects, and their
efficacy is less than the two previously-mentioned contraceptives.
These are the medical side effects of such contraceptives. As for the
use of contraceptives from the perspective of theSharee'ah, that is
subject to further research on this subject.
Health and Fitness, - Your Role in Treating Enuresis
Is it possible that I could have a role?
Yes, dear caregiver, you are the one who plays the greatest role in
treating your child's enuresis )bed-wetting(, particularly if it goes
back to psychological causes.
Below is an outline of your role as clarified by physicians:
- To habituate your child to depend on himself from an early age until
he gets accustomed to facing problems and tries to solve them under
the supervision of his parents. A child who is habituated to depending
on himself from a very early age rarely suffers from this problem.
- Habituate the child, from a very early age, to use the toilet
correctly. These days, thanks to easy-to-use diapers, mothers slacken
in training their children to use the toilet at an early age.
- Do not rebuke or beat your child as this may lead to negative
reactions on the child's side, or, perhaps, his insistence on wetting
his bed as an objection to the rebuke and hitting. So, it is important
to stop punishing the child and showing anger to him because of his
bed-wetting problem, since showing anger because of this leads to
tension and trouble, with which the enuresis continues.
- To accept this behavior as being natural and explaining it to the
child gives him a feeling of security. Parents should alleviate the
negative feelings about that condition and convince him that he is not
the only one and that many children do the same, and that soon he will
get over it.
- To provide the child with warm feelings, compassion and support. The
parents should tell the child that they love him and by no means
should they be angry with him.
- To encourage and even praise the child whenever he is able to
control his urination.
- To put a monthly table and mark with red stars the nights on which
he could control his urination. This way motivates him and helps him
evaluate the situation and endeavor to overcome the problem with
eagerness to receive the reward in the event of success.
- Serve dinner to the child at an early time and do not give him
drinks after six in the evening, i.e. 2 to 3 hours before he goes to
bed -- especially drinks that contain caffeine because it is a
diuretic; however, do not leave the child thirsty.
- Do not give him foods that contain large amounts of water; such as
watermelon, cucumber, and so on, before going to bed.
- Help the child have enough sleep during the night, and have an hour
of sleep during the day, as this will help overcome the problem of
deep sleep.
- It is necessary for the child's food to be healthy and free of
excessive spices, salts and sugars.
- Get the child to go to the toilet to urinate directly before sleep
and awaken him during the night to go to the toilet for the same
purpose.
- To observe the times at which the child urinates in bed and awaken
him from sleep some minutes before those times to urinate. In this
respect, the parents have to make it easy for the child to go to the
toilet to urinate by keeping the toilet light switched on and making
the child's room near to the toilet, if it is possible. At the same
time, this procedure should not be made a burden on the child. An
adult should accompany him to the toilet if he is afraid of going
alone at night.
- Switch on a faint light in the child's room to help him go to the
toilet or change his clothes at night.
- Do not talk about the child's problem with others in the child's
presence and do not make a comparison between him and his peers who do
not face the same problem.
- Do not attribute to the child characteristics which he does not like
and tackle the problem in secret.
- Be keen on the child's cleanliness and urge him to take a bath and
change his clothes.
- It is better if the child sleeps alone on a separate bed.
- It is better to put bedding to absorb liquids, so that the child
would be more comfortable.
- See a doctor to be sure whether this problem goes back to physical
causes, and abide by the guidelines of the physician with regard to
taking the medicine regularly at its due time.
- Train the urinary bladder to increase its capacity by getting the
child to drink great quantities of liquids during the day and asking
him to defer urination for some time, with increasing the time for
which he should hold urine throughout many weeks, during which he
would become able to control urination in a better way.
- If the child wakes up wet and weeping, the parent should change his
clothes quietly, calm him and embrace him and sit by his side until he
goes back to sleep.
- Provide a good family atmosphere for the children, and good
communication. Parents should not quarrel in their children's
presence, and the children should feel they live in a house full of
happiness and love.
- Boost the child's self-confidence by saying that the problem will
inevitably get better with time; and if we succeed in solving it, the
results would be better.
- Do not let the child listen to disturbing news particularly directly
before bedtime.
- Limit the time the child sits in front of the TV and choose the
programs he watches.
- Read relaxing stories to children before sleep to calm them.
- Alert his older siblings not to ridicule him because of this habit
since this harms him and complicates his situation.
- Give the child the freedom to discuss his status with his physician
if he is capable of doing so.
- Provide coverings and underclothes near the child, and encourage him
to change them by himself in case of involuntary urination so that he
feels responsible for this problem.
- Make the child change his bedsheet every time he fails to control urination.
- The family should ensure a quiet atmosphere in the house,
particularly before the child goes to bed.
If the involuntary urination is traced to a psychological cause, it
should be identified. We have mentioned that the child's enuresis is
an indicator of a problem from which he is suffering. So, it is of
great importance to know the specific nature of that problem. Knowing
the cause that lies beyond his feeling of annoyance, depression,
terror, and so on, helps us treat the causes of our children's
displeasure. In this way, we would obtain a radical solution for the
problem.
A lot of parents are mistaken when they think that the treatment of
the children's enuresis is only to habituate the child to control
urination. Whoever thinks, or does so, will not solve the root of the
problem. Bed-wetting, as we have previously clarified, indicates a
problem, and its disappearance does not mean that the problem itself
has disappeared; in so much as it means that only its outward symptoms
have disappeared. Some specialists say that it is true that the child
may stop bed-wetting, but unless the problem underlying his annoyance
is principally solved, he will express it through other abnormal
behaviors. In this way, he only replaces one means of expression with
another.
For example, he may become more introverted, more secluded, achieving
less at school, to the end of this chain of undesirable behavior.
Hence, the parents should look for the causes lying behind their
children's suffering and try to improve the psychological atmosphere
in which they live. It is of no use to order them to stop bed-wetting,
while the family quarrels or their persecution remain the same, given
that if these problems are solved, the bed-wetting would automatically
diminish and it will be easy for us to try to stop it completely.
Yes, dear caregiver, you are the one who plays the greatest role in
treating your child's enuresis )bed-wetting(, particularly if it goes
back to psychological causes.
Below is an outline of your role as clarified by physicians:
- To habituate your child to depend on himself from an early age until
he gets accustomed to facing problems and tries to solve them under
the supervision of his parents. A child who is habituated to depending
on himself from a very early age rarely suffers from this problem.
- Habituate the child, from a very early age, to use the toilet
correctly. These days, thanks to easy-to-use diapers, mothers slacken
in training their children to use the toilet at an early age.
- Do not rebuke or beat your child as this may lead to negative
reactions on the child's side, or, perhaps, his insistence on wetting
his bed as an objection to the rebuke and hitting. So, it is important
to stop punishing the child and showing anger to him because of his
bed-wetting problem, since showing anger because of this leads to
tension and trouble, with which the enuresis continues.
- To accept this behavior as being natural and explaining it to the
child gives him a feeling of security. Parents should alleviate the
negative feelings about that condition and convince him that he is not
the only one and that many children do the same, and that soon he will
get over it.
- To provide the child with warm feelings, compassion and support. The
parents should tell the child that they love him and by no means
should they be angry with him.
- To encourage and even praise the child whenever he is able to
control his urination.
- To put a monthly table and mark with red stars the nights on which
he could control his urination. This way motivates him and helps him
evaluate the situation and endeavor to overcome the problem with
eagerness to receive the reward in the event of success.
- Serve dinner to the child at an early time and do not give him
drinks after six in the evening, i.e. 2 to 3 hours before he goes to
bed -- especially drinks that contain caffeine because it is a
diuretic; however, do not leave the child thirsty.
- Do not give him foods that contain large amounts of water; such as
watermelon, cucumber, and so on, before going to bed.
- Help the child have enough sleep during the night, and have an hour
of sleep during the day, as this will help overcome the problem of
deep sleep.
- It is necessary for the child's food to be healthy and free of
excessive spices, salts and sugars.
- Get the child to go to the toilet to urinate directly before sleep
and awaken him during the night to go to the toilet for the same
purpose.
- To observe the times at which the child urinates in bed and awaken
him from sleep some minutes before those times to urinate. In this
respect, the parents have to make it easy for the child to go to the
toilet to urinate by keeping the toilet light switched on and making
the child's room near to the toilet, if it is possible. At the same
time, this procedure should not be made a burden on the child. An
adult should accompany him to the toilet if he is afraid of going
alone at night.
- Switch on a faint light in the child's room to help him go to the
toilet or change his clothes at night.
- Do not talk about the child's problem with others in the child's
presence and do not make a comparison between him and his peers who do
not face the same problem.
- Do not attribute to the child characteristics which he does not like
and tackle the problem in secret.
- Be keen on the child's cleanliness and urge him to take a bath and
change his clothes.
- It is better if the child sleeps alone on a separate bed.
- It is better to put bedding to absorb liquids, so that the child
would be more comfortable.
- See a doctor to be sure whether this problem goes back to physical
causes, and abide by the guidelines of the physician with regard to
taking the medicine regularly at its due time.
- Train the urinary bladder to increase its capacity by getting the
child to drink great quantities of liquids during the day and asking
him to defer urination for some time, with increasing the time for
which he should hold urine throughout many weeks, during which he
would become able to control urination in a better way.
- If the child wakes up wet and weeping, the parent should change his
clothes quietly, calm him and embrace him and sit by his side until he
goes back to sleep.
- Provide a good family atmosphere for the children, and good
communication. Parents should not quarrel in their children's
presence, and the children should feel they live in a house full of
happiness and love.
- Boost the child's self-confidence by saying that the problem will
inevitably get better with time; and if we succeed in solving it, the
results would be better.
- Do not let the child listen to disturbing news particularly directly
before bedtime.
- Limit the time the child sits in front of the TV and choose the
programs he watches.
- Read relaxing stories to children before sleep to calm them.
- Alert his older siblings not to ridicule him because of this habit
since this harms him and complicates his situation.
- Give the child the freedom to discuss his status with his physician
if he is capable of doing so.
- Provide coverings and underclothes near the child, and encourage him
to change them by himself in case of involuntary urination so that he
feels responsible for this problem.
- Make the child change his bedsheet every time he fails to control urination.
- The family should ensure a quiet atmosphere in the house,
particularly before the child goes to bed.
If the involuntary urination is traced to a psychological cause, it
should be identified. We have mentioned that the child's enuresis is
an indicator of a problem from which he is suffering. So, it is of
great importance to know the specific nature of that problem. Knowing
the cause that lies beyond his feeling of annoyance, depression,
terror, and so on, helps us treat the causes of our children's
displeasure. In this way, we would obtain a radical solution for the
problem.
A lot of parents are mistaken when they think that the treatment of
the children's enuresis is only to habituate the child to control
urination. Whoever thinks, or does so, will not solve the root of the
problem. Bed-wetting, as we have previously clarified, indicates a
problem, and its disappearance does not mean that the problem itself
has disappeared; in so much as it means that only its outward symptoms
have disappeared. Some specialists say that it is true that the child
may stop bed-wetting, but unless the problem underlying his annoyance
is principally solved, he will express it through other abnormal
behaviors. In this way, he only replaces one means of expression with
another.
For example, he may become more introverted, more secluded, achieving
less at school, to the end of this chain of undesirable behavior.
Hence, the parents should look for the causes lying behind their
children's suffering and try to improve the psychological atmosphere
in which they live. It is of no use to order them to stop bed-wetting,
while the family quarrels or their persecution remain the same, given
that if these problems are solved, the bed-wetting would automatically
diminish and it will be easy for us to try to stop it completely.
Dought & clear, - Calling hospitals and Qur'an schools by the names of prominent Muslims
Is it permissible to call charitable projects, hospitals, Qur'aan
schools and so on by the names of prominent Muslims, such as the
Sahaabah, Taabi'een and those who came after them such as guided imams
and leaders of jihad, or not?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with calling charitable projects, hospitals,
Qur'aan schools and so on by the names of prominent Muslims, such as
the Sahaabah, Taabi'een and those who came after them such as guided
imams and leaders of jihad. This calling is not a kind of innovation
in any way; rather it is something that is permissible.
And Allaah is the source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and
peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and Companions.
schools and so on by the names of prominent Muslims, such as the
Sahaabah, Taabi'een and those who came after them such as guided imams
and leaders of jihad, or not?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with calling charitable projects, hospitals,
Qur'aan schools and so on by the names of prominent Muslims, such as
the Sahaabah, Taabi'een and those who came after them such as guided
imams and leaders of jihad. This calling is not a kind of innovation
in any way; rather it is something that is permissible.
And Allaah is the source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and
peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and Companions.
Dought & clear, - A spacious house is part of the Muslim's happiness
Is a small house part of the Muslim's misery?.
Praise be to Allaah.
A spacious house is part of the Muslim's happiness, as it says in the
hadeeth narrated by Ahmad (15409) from Naafi' ibn 'Abd al-Haarith (may
Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Part of a man's happiness
includes a good neighbour, a comfortable mount, and a spacious abode."
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami', no. 3029.
Al-Haakim and Abu Na'eem narrated from Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqaas (may
Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: "Four things are part of happiness: a
righteous wife, a spacious abode, a good neighbour and a comfortable
mount. And four things are part of misery: a bad wife, a bad
neighbour, a bad mount and a small abode." Classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami', no. 887.
What is meant here is that they are part of worldly happiness, not
spiritual happiness. Happiness may be general or specific. General
happiness refers to happiness in both realms (this world and the
Hereafter), and specific happiness refers to whatever it is limited
to.
The one who is blessed with goodness in the things mentioned will have
a good life, and be happy in his life, because these are things which
give comfort to the body and heart, and make life more comfortable.
What is meant by misery here is distress, as in the verse in which
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"So let him not get you both out of Paradise, so that you will be distressed"
[Ta-Ha 20:117].
The one who suffers with a bad wife, a bad house and a bad mount will
be distressed most of the time; if the house is too small then he will
feel under pressure, worried and distracted.
It is prescribed to ask one's Lord for a spacious house, because of
the report narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3500) from Abu Hurayrah (may
Allaah be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said du'aa' one night and said: "O
Allaah, forgive me my sin, make my house spacious and bless me in that
which You provide to me." classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh
al-Jaami'(1265).
We ask Allaah to bless us with happiness in both realms.
And Allaah knows best.
Praise be to Allaah.
A spacious house is part of the Muslim's happiness, as it says in the
hadeeth narrated by Ahmad (15409) from Naafi' ibn 'Abd al-Haarith (may
Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Part of a man's happiness
includes a good neighbour, a comfortable mount, and a spacious abode."
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami', no. 3029.
Al-Haakim and Abu Na'eem narrated from Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqaas (may
Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: "Four things are part of happiness: a
righteous wife, a spacious abode, a good neighbour and a comfortable
mount. And four things are part of misery: a bad wife, a bad
neighbour, a bad mount and a small abode." Classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami', no. 887.
What is meant here is that they are part of worldly happiness, not
spiritual happiness. Happiness may be general or specific. General
happiness refers to happiness in both realms (this world and the
Hereafter), and specific happiness refers to whatever it is limited
to.
The one who is blessed with goodness in the things mentioned will have
a good life, and be happy in his life, because these are things which
give comfort to the body and heart, and make life more comfortable.
What is meant by misery here is distress, as in the verse in which
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"So let him not get you both out of Paradise, so that you will be distressed"
[Ta-Ha 20:117].
The one who suffers with a bad wife, a bad house and a bad mount will
be distressed most of the time; if the house is too small then he will
feel under pressure, worried and distracted.
It is prescribed to ask one's Lord for a spacious house, because of
the report narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3500) from Abu Hurayrah (may
Allaah be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said du'aa' one night and said: "O
Allaah, forgive me my sin, make my house spacious and bless me in that
which You provide to me." classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh
al-Jaami'(1265).
We ask Allaah to bless us with happiness in both realms.
And Allaah knows best.
Dought & clear, - Ruling on keeping pets
I am ten years old and I would like tokeep a pet. Are there any
guidelines concerning that? If there is anything,please draw our
attention to it.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We are very happy to receive questions from our youth such as you, who
love Allaah and His Messenger and who are smart and intelligent. This
question is important and useful and is asked in a brief and polite
manner. We ask Allaah to look after you and take care of you and to
reward with good everyone who has contributed to your good upbringing.
Secondly:
Keeping and raising pets is something that is permitted in Islam and
there is nothing wrong with it.
Al-Bukhaari (6203) and Muslim (2150) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) was the best of people in attitude. I had a brother who was
called Abu 'Umayr. He (the narrator) said: I think he said: He was a
weanling. When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) came and saw him, he said: "Abu 'Umayr, what happened to
the nughayr (nightingale)?" He used to play with it.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
It indicates that it is permissible for children to play with birds,
and it is permissible to spend money on permissible things that will
entertain children, and it is permissible to keep birds in cages and
the like, and to clip the wings of birds, because one or the other
must have been done in the case of Abu 'Umayr's bird, and whichever is
the case, the other comes under the same ruling. End quote.
Fath al-Baari(10/584).
With regard to the conditions and guidelines on keeping animals, these
include the following:
1.
The animal that is kept should not be a dog, because Islam has
forbidden keeping dogs except guard dogs and hunting dogs. This has
been explained in the answer to question no. 69777. The Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The angels do not enter a
house in which there is a dog." Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3225) and
Muslim (2106). Would the Muslim be happy for the angels of mercy not
to accompany him in his house because of an animal he is keeping?
2.
Not going so far with regard to this matter that it reaches the stage
of blameworthy extravagance. We have seen some people who pay
thousands and even millions competing to buy a certain animal or take
care of it and provide services for it. Some of them even bequeath
some of their wealth to them. In some countries there are festivals
and shows for all kinds of animals, on which huge amounts of money are
spent. All of this is foolishness and lack of common sense.
3.
The animal must be treated kindly. If a Muslim keeps an animal, he
must provide it with proper food and drink, and not cause it any harm
or injury by mistreating it or using it for target practice or making
animals fight one another, or exposing it to heat or cold. It was
narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whilst a
man was walking on the road, he became very thirsty. He found a well
so he went down into it and drank, then he came out. There he saw a
dog that was panting and biting the ground out of thirst. The man
said: this dog is feeling the same thirst that I felt. So he went back
down into the well and filled his shoe with water, then he held it in
his mouth until he climbed back up, and he gave the water to the dog.
Allaah appreciated (his action) and forgave him." They said: O
Messenger of Allaah, will we have reward with regard to these animals?
He said: "In every living thing there is reward."
Look at how the believer will be rewarded for taking care of animals;
rather he may even enter Paradise because of his kind treatment of a
single animal, as happened to the man mentioned in this hadeeth.
Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, loves those who do good.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has told
us of a woman who went to Hell because of her neglect of a cat which
she detained and it died of hunger; she did not feed it or let it go
and eat of the vermin of the earth.
And Allaah knows best.
guidelines concerning that? If there is anything,please draw our
attention to it.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We are very happy to receive questions from our youth such as you, who
love Allaah and His Messenger and who are smart and intelligent. This
question is important and useful and is asked in a brief and polite
manner. We ask Allaah to look after you and take care of you and to
reward with good everyone who has contributed to your good upbringing.
Secondly:
Keeping and raising pets is something that is permitted in Islam and
there is nothing wrong with it.
Al-Bukhaari (6203) and Muslim (2150) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) was the best of people in attitude. I had a brother who was
called Abu 'Umayr. He (the narrator) said: I think he said: He was a
weanling. When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) came and saw him, he said: "Abu 'Umayr, what happened to
the nughayr (nightingale)?" He used to play with it.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
It indicates that it is permissible for children to play with birds,
and it is permissible to spend money on permissible things that will
entertain children, and it is permissible to keep birds in cages and
the like, and to clip the wings of birds, because one or the other
must have been done in the case of Abu 'Umayr's bird, and whichever is
the case, the other comes under the same ruling. End quote.
Fath al-Baari(10/584).
With regard to the conditions and guidelines on keeping animals, these
include the following:
1.
The animal that is kept should not be a dog, because Islam has
forbidden keeping dogs except guard dogs and hunting dogs. This has
been explained in the answer to question no. 69777. The Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The angels do not enter a
house in which there is a dog." Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3225) and
Muslim (2106). Would the Muslim be happy for the angels of mercy not
to accompany him in his house because of an animal he is keeping?
2.
Not going so far with regard to this matter that it reaches the stage
of blameworthy extravagance. We have seen some people who pay
thousands and even millions competing to buy a certain animal or take
care of it and provide services for it. Some of them even bequeath
some of their wealth to them. In some countries there are festivals
and shows for all kinds of animals, on which huge amounts of money are
spent. All of this is foolishness and lack of common sense.
3.
The animal must be treated kindly. If a Muslim keeps an animal, he
must provide it with proper food and drink, and not cause it any harm
or injury by mistreating it or using it for target practice or making
animals fight one another, or exposing it to heat or cold. It was
narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whilst a
man was walking on the road, he became very thirsty. He found a well
so he went down into it and drank, then he came out. There he saw a
dog that was panting and biting the ground out of thirst. The man
said: this dog is feeling the same thirst that I felt. So he went back
down into the well and filled his shoe with water, then he held it in
his mouth until he climbed back up, and he gave the water to the dog.
Allaah appreciated (his action) and forgave him." They said: O
Messenger of Allaah, will we have reward with regard to these animals?
He said: "In every living thing there is reward."
Look at how the believer will be rewarded for taking care of animals;
rather he may even enter Paradise because of his kind treatment of a
single animal, as happened to the man mentioned in this hadeeth.
Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, loves those who do good.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has told
us of a woman who went to Hell because of her neglect of a cat which
she detained and it died of hunger; she did not feed it or let it go
and eat of the vermin of the earth.
And Allaah knows best.
For children, - Is Lying ever justified? Why Islam always encourages telling the truth?
There are no absolute justifications in Islam and Prophet Mohamed
(pbuh) has asked us to tell the truth even under the harshest
circumstances of oppression. However, one may choose not to tell the
truth in the following situations:
a). He is under oppression and there is danger of losing his life if
he told the truth. Shaikh Saadi narrates a story, "A cruel king
ordered an innocent man from village present in his court to be killed
because of his lack of manners. Hearing this, the villager started to
curse the king in his native language. The king asked the prime
minister, who understood that villager's language, to tell him what
that villager was saying. The wise minister, instead of telling the
truth, told the king this villager is sorry for his conduct, praising
his greatness and asking for his mercy. The king was affected and he
spared the life of that innocent villager." Shaikh Saadi calls this a
"lie with wisdom."
b). To promote mutual relationship between spouse, i.e., if wife asks
you, "Am I beautiful?" or "Do you love me?" there is nothing wrong
with saying "Yes," even if this is not the case. While these types of
lying are tolerated, it is crucial not to step over the bounds of what
is and is not acceptable. For instance, if a wife asks her husband if
he is having an affair and the husband lies and says that he isn't
(when he is) to make her 'happy' is not a permissible lie. This
scenario is not what the above hadith permits. This is a deceptive lie
which the husband is engaging in to serve his own agenda.
c). this also applies during war. If a prisoner is captured by the
enemy and perhaps asked how many soldiers are with his army, he can
lie about the number in order to protect his own fighters.
d). While making peace between two quarreling parties, instead of
igniting them against each other, i.e., "He said such and such bad
thing about you," just say, "He says such and such good thing about
you." Tradition: He is not a liar who tries to bring peace between two
people by trying to tell the truth.
e). to make unbelievers realize the truth as described in Surah
al-Anbiya (21:62-65) When Prophet Abraham (pbuh) broke all the idols
except the biggest one, the unbelievers entered the temple. Prophet
Abraham (pbuh) hid and put his ax in the hand of the chief idol. They
asked, "Who broke our gods?" Prophet Abraham (pbuh) said, "Ask the
chief idol, he has the ax." They said, "Don't you know he can't speak
or do anything?" Prophet Abraham (pbuh) said, "That's what I have been
telling you, so worship Allah (SWT), rather than these stones that
cannot harm or profit you."
Lies often roll off the human tongue just as fast as the moths are
attracted to an open flame. The consequences of both are sometimes
equally flammable. Being truthful is an endearing quality that we all
would be blessed to attain in our lifetime and is a commodity that is
becoming more and more scarce in this present world as the hands of
time relentlessly spin round and round.*
(pbuh) has asked us to tell the truth even under the harshest
circumstances of oppression. However, one may choose not to tell the
truth in the following situations:
a). He is under oppression and there is danger of losing his life if
he told the truth. Shaikh Saadi narrates a story, "A cruel king
ordered an innocent man from village present in his court to be killed
because of his lack of manners. Hearing this, the villager started to
curse the king in his native language. The king asked the prime
minister, who understood that villager's language, to tell him what
that villager was saying. The wise minister, instead of telling the
truth, told the king this villager is sorry for his conduct, praising
his greatness and asking for his mercy. The king was affected and he
spared the life of that innocent villager." Shaikh Saadi calls this a
"lie with wisdom."
b). To promote mutual relationship between spouse, i.e., if wife asks
you, "Am I beautiful?" or "Do you love me?" there is nothing wrong
with saying "Yes," even if this is not the case. While these types of
lying are tolerated, it is crucial not to step over the bounds of what
is and is not acceptable. For instance, if a wife asks her husband if
he is having an affair and the husband lies and says that he isn't
(when he is) to make her 'happy' is not a permissible lie. This
scenario is not what the above hadith permits. This is a deceptive lie
which the husband is engaging in to serve his own agenda.
c). this also applies during war. If a prisoner is captured by the
enemy and perhaps asked how many soldiers are with his army, he can
lie about the number in order to protect his own fighters.
d). While making peace between two quarreling parties, instead of
igniting them against each other, i.e., "He said such and such bad
thing about you," just say, "He says such and such good thing about
you." Tradition: He is not a liar who tries to bring peace between two
people by trying to tell the truth.
e). to make unbelievers realize the truth as described in Surah
al-Anbiya (21:62-65) When Prophet Abraham (pbuh) broke all the idols
except the biggest one, the unbelievers entered the temple. Prophet
Abraham (pbuh) hid and put his ax in the hand of the chief idol. They
asked, "Who broke our gods?" Prophet Abraham (pbuh) said, "Ask the
chief idol, he has the ax." They said, "Don't you know he can't speak
or do anything?" Prophet Abraham (pbuh) said, "That's what I have been
telling you, so worship Allah (SWT), rather than these stones that
cannot harm or profit you."
Lies often roll off the human tongue just as fast as the moths are
attracted to an open flame. The consequences of both are sometimes
equally flammable. Being truthful is an endearing quality that we all
would be blessed to attain in our lifetime and is a commodity that is
becoming more and more scarce in this present world as the hands of
time relentlessly spin round and round.*
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Fathwa, - A woman sitting with men in the same place
Question
Is it permissible for a woman to sit with men in the same place?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
If the men are Mahram )non-marriageable( to the woman, then there is
no harm if she sits with them as long as she wears proper clothes that
cover the parts that they are not allowed to see from her body,
namely, all her body except the face and the limbs according to the
preponderant opinion of the scholars.
However, if there are non-Mahram )marriageable( men, the woman should
not sit with them in the same place, as Allaah The Almighty Says )what
means(:}And when you ask ]his wives[ for something, ask them from
behind a partition.{]Quran 33:53[
'Uqbah ibn 'Aamirreported that the Prophet, said:"Beware of entering
upon women."Thereupon a man from the Ansaar said,"What about ]male[
in-laws?"The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi was sallam, replied:"Male
in-laws are death."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
In addition, there are many other explicit evidences that forbid
gatherings of men and women in the same place.
Allaah Knows best.
Is it permissible for a woman to sit with men in the same place?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
If the men are Mahram )non-marriageable( to the woman, then there is
no harm if she sits with them as long as she wears proper clothes that
cover the parts that they are not allowed to see from her body,
namely, all her body except the face and the limbs according to the
preponderant opinion of the scholars.
However, if there are non-Mahram )marriageable( men, the woman should
not sit with them in the same place, as Allaah The Almighty Says )what
means(:}And when you ask ]his wives[ for something, ask them from
behind a partition.{]Quran 33:53[
'Uqbah ibn 'Aamirreported that the Prophet, said:"Beware of entering
upon women."Thereupon a man from the Ansaar said,"What about ]male[
in-laws?"The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi was sallam, replied:"Male
in-laws are death."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
In addition, there are many other explicit evidences that forbid
gatherings of men and women in the same place.
Allaah Knows best.
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Fathwa, - Ruling on being alone with a non-Mahram woman in the elevator
Question
Is it forbidden to be in the elevator alone with a non-Mahram
)marriageable( woman?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
The Islamic ruling on a Muslim man being alone with a non-Mahram woman
in the elevator is the same as their being in private in any other
place. Yet perhaps it is more perilous in the elevator due to the
narrow space which renders them quite close to each other. Hence, they
are more likely to be tempted into impermissible looking and touching
with the possibility that they might arrange a date with each other
and other such evils. Undeniably, the devil circulates like blood in
the human being; therefore, it is completely forbidden for a Muslim
man to be alone with a non-Mahram woman according to the unanimous
opinion of Muslim jurists; for the Prophet, said:"No person should be
alone with a woman except with a Mahram."]Muslim[
Moreover, when a man is with a woman alone in private, the devil uses
the situation to lure them into committing sins. The Prophet,
said:"Never is a man alone with a woman except that the devil is their
third ]party[. "]Ahmad[
Allaah Knows best.
Is it forbidden to be in the elevator alone with a non-Mahram
)marriageable( woman?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
The Islamic ruling on a Muslim man being alone with a non-Mahram woman
in the elevator is the same as their being in private in any other
place. Yet perhaps it is more perilous in the elevator due to the
narrow space which renders them quite close to each other. Hence, they
are more likely to be tempted into impermissible looking and touching
with the possibility that they might arrange a date with each other
and other such evils. Undeniably, the devil circulates like blood in
the human being; therefore, it is completely forbidden for a Muslim
man to be alone with a non-Mahram woman according to the unanimous
opinion of Muslim jurists; for the Prophet, said:"No person should be
alone with a woman except with a Mahram."]Muslim[
Moreover, when a man is with a woman alone in private, the devil uses
the situation to lure them into committing sins. The Prophet,
said:"Never is a man alone with a woman except that the devil is their
third ]party[. "]Ahmad[
Allaah Knows best.
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Fathwa, - Her brother-in-law behaved to her in a suspicious manner
Question
salam aleikum sheikh. i have one big problem that i need your advice
with. in summer i was living for 3 weeks with my husbands family, mom
dad little sister and older brother..his older brotherlook very
practising.. he have barb and sunnah clothes but i have discover that
he is so far from islam. this man have make me in very bad situation
more than one time..for example he have take of his tshirt infront of
me 3 times and i have see all his aura but of course i have look away
and go to other room..he have say many to me strange things, like if
me and my husband, his brother divorce i am stil welcome to move with
him the mom and the sister and we all live together. i have say all
this to my husband. the big problem is that even he have take of his
tshirt in front of me 3 times and all my husbands family have see this
they have not only not say for him to not make this but they lie in my
face and say for my husband that it have never happen. i now feel very
stupid to have say this to my husband because he believe his family
and not me but i have not say this for to make problem but for to
explain that i have been many times in situations with his brother
where i have not feel secure and in the future i dont want to be
anywhere where my husband is not, like this nobody can deny what have
happen and make me like one lier. have i make wrong for to say all
this to my husband?? is it better not to say and maybe next time
something more bad happen??? jazaki allahu khairan..
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
If the situation is as you mentioned that your brother-in-law took off
his shirt in a way that his 'Awrah )parts of the body that must be
covered in Islam( was uncovered, then he is wrong. Indeed, you did
well by looking away and going away from him. We would like to mention
here that the 'Awrah of a man is from the navel to the knee as we
clarified in Fatwa 87818.
Moreover, if what you mentioned is true that he told you"if your
husband divorces you, you are welcome...etc.", then if he intended to
incite you to seek divorce, then he is trying to spoil the marital
relationship between you and your husband and this is forbidden as we
clarified in Fatwa 92056.
However, you should not have informed your husband of what his bother
said or did to you as the harm of informing him is greater than its
benefit.
It should be noted that the wife's brother-in-law is a non-Mahram to
her, so it is not permissible for her to mix with him in a forbidden
manner or allow him to be in seclusion with her or take her Hijjab off
in front of him.
Indeed, the Sharee'ah warned women against the male relatives of the
husband more than any other males.'Uqbah Ibn 'Aamernarrated that the
Prophetsaid:"Beware of entering upon women;" they said: 'O Messenger
of Allaah, what do you say about the male in-law )the woman's
husband's male relative like his brother, uncle, cousin, etc(?' He
replied: "He is death itself )i.e. his seclusion with her is as
serious and dangerous as death(."]Bukhaari and Muslim[
So, a husband should help his wife in being chaste and in avoiding
reasons of temptation.
Finally, it should be noted that a wife is not obliged to visit the
family of her husband )i.e. her in-laws(, especially if she fears they
may harm her.
Allaah Knows best.
salam aleikum sheikh. i have one big problem that i need your advice
with. in summer i was living for 3 weeks with my husbands family, mom
dad little sister and older brother..his older brotherlook very
practising.. he have barb and sunnah clothes but i have discover that
he is so far from islam. this man have make me in very bad situation
more than one time..for example he have take of his tshirt infront of
me 3 times and i have see all his aura but of course i have look away
and go to other room..he have say many to me strange things, like if
me and my husband, his brother divorce i am stil welcome to move with
him the mom and the sister and we all live together. i have say all
this to my husband. the big problem is that even he have take of his
tshirt in front of me 3 times and all my husbands family have see this
they have not only not say for him to not make this but they lie in my
face and say for my husband that it have never happen. i now feel very
stupid to have say this to my husband because he believe his family
and not me but i have not say this for to make problem but for to
explain that i have been many times in situations with his brother
where i have not feel secure and in the future i dont want to be
anywhere where my husband is not, like this nobody can deny what have
happen and make me like one lier. have i make wrong for to say all
this to my husband?? is it better not to say and maybe next time
something more bad happen??? jazaki allahu khairan..
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
If the situation is as you mentioned that your brother-in-law took off
his shirt in a way that his 'Awrah )parts of the body that must be
covered in Islam( was uncovered, then he is wrong. Indeed, you did
well by looking away and going away from him. We would like to mention
here that the 'Awrah of a man is from the navel to the knee as we
clarified in Fatwa 87818.
Moreover, if what you mentioned is true that he told you"if your
husband divorces you, you are welcome...etc.", then if he intended to
incite you to seek divorce, then he is trying to spoil the marital
relationship between you and your husband and this is forbidden as we
clarified in Fatwa 92056.
However, you should not have informed your husband of what his bother
said or did to you as the harm of informing him is greater than its
benefit.
It should be noted that the wife's brother-in-law is a non-Mahram to
her, so it is not permissible for her to mix with him in a forbidden
manner or allow him to be in seclusion with her or take her Hijjab off
in front of him.
Indeed, the Sharee'ah warned women against the male relatives of the
husband more than any other males.'Uqbah Ibn 'Aamernarrated that the
Prophetsaid:"Beware of entering upon women;" they said: 'O Messenger
of Allaah, what do you say about the male in-law )the woman's
husband's male relative like his brother, uncle, cousin, etc(?' He
replied: "He is death itself )i.e. his seclusion with her is as
serious and dangerous as death(."]Bukhaari and Muslim[
So, a husband should help his wife in being chaste and in avoiding
reasons of temptation.
Finally, it should be noted that a wife is not obliged to visit the
family of her husband )i.e. her in-laws(, especially if she fears they
may harm her.
Allaah Knows best.
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