Assalamualikum, i have a question, i hope you will forgive its nature,
i need help. I live with my husband, our 4 children and his 2
brothers. it has been hell living with the 2 b.il because i could
never dress nicely and always my head i knew its haram to be in
presence of brother in law alone, even thou i looked at him like
brother and he as well looked at me like sister. but still i never was
confortable and only stayed like that cos he was husbands brothers. i
became strong and wise living with and always made sure i didnt look
pretty around them and tried to keep myself coverd and unattractive.
recnly one got married. i did not want him nd his wife to live with us
but they no find their own place so they staying with us until they
find there own place. my problem is my sister in law does not cover in
front of my husband, she will walk in her stupid pajams, sometimes
sexy into the the toilet or bathroom, or she will have hair open or
she will have chest exposed and she doesnt care my husband there. this
make me sick. she always want to please my husband by cooking or
making his food, she insist she do it. i say it ok il do it, but she
quikly gets on with work. she want my husband to make conversation
with her, i dont now wot to do. shell i say somthing to her? or to my
husband. i feel sik when i think abt it. but alhamdulilah i know my
husband love me, but i dont want shaitan to push him in unlawful
thinking. it will destroy me. i hate that even for 1 minut she left
alone with my husbnd but her husbnd go to work and my husbnd go late
to work. i hate when i tke childnr to school she alone at home with
him or she even sit alone with him in same room, because she sometimes
sits in the same room as my husbnd alone, mayb wathing tv or on the
computer. plz help me and advise and make dua for me that they go own
place soon.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we ask Allaah to facilitate your matter and make a way
out for you from your difficulty and facilitate for your
brother-in-law and his family a separate and independent
accommodation, as Allaah is Near and Responsive.
One aspect of wisdom of the Sharee'ah is that it blocks the means to
temptation especially in regard to the dealing of a man with a
non-Mahram woman.Usaamah Ibn Zaydnarrated that the Prophetsaid: "I
have not left behind me a temptation that is more harmful for men than
women." ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
It is for this reason that Islam forbids being in seclusion with a
non-Mahram woman, and forbids a man from entering upon non-Mahram
women. The religious texts in this regard are mentioned in Fataawa
85321and 127911.
Indeed, you did well by observing your Hijaab in front of your
brothers-in-law as they are non-Mahram to you.
As regards what you mentioned in regard to the wife of your
brother-in-law not covering herself in front of your husband, then
this is evil and a clear sin and it is not permissible to approve of
them doing so. Therefore, you have to advise both of them in a wise
and gentle manner while highlighting to them the religious texts that
forbid that.
In any case, it is your right to be in a separate accommodation in
which you will not be harmed by the presence of your in-laws or
others. Indeed, it is the right of a wife upon her husband that he
provides her with a separate accommodation as clarified by the
jurists; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84608.
In case it is necessary that your brother-in-law lives with you
]because of him not finding another accommodation[, then this must be
in part of the house whose amenities are completely separate from
yours.
Allaah Knows best.
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