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This is supported by theHadeethwhere the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"If the woman performs the five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter the Paradise of her Lord."Likewise, Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}But if they obey you ]once more[, seek no means against them.{]Quran 4:34[ Moreover, the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Were I to order anyone to prostrate himself before anyone else, I would have ordered the woman to prostrate herself before her husband." Obedience is the first right that Islam acknowledges for the husband over his wife. She is required to obey him in everything unless he commands her to do an act of disobedience. The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"No creature should be obeyed when it comes to disobeying the Creator." Consequently, she is required to obey him when he commands, fulfill his request when he orders, abstain when he forbids and respond when he advises. If he commands her not to allow a certain person, whether he is a relative or not, aMahramor non-Mahram, to enter his home when he is absent, she is required to obey him. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Indeed, you have a right over your wives, and your wives have a right over you. As for the right that you have over them, it is to disallow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses." Obeying the Husband is Equal to Jihaad There are manySharee'ahtexts indicating the greatness of the husband's right over his wife. In aHadeethon the authority of Ibn 'Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, it was mentioned that a woman came to the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and said, "O Messenger of Allaah, I am a delegate ]from a group of[ women and there are none of them, whether she knows or does not know that I would come to you, except she would want me to come to you. Allaah The Almighty is the Lord of both men and women and their God, and you are the Messenger of Allaah, for both men and women. Allaah has prescribed Jihaad for men only; if they are victorious, their reward is great, and if they die as martyrs, they are alive with their Lord, receiving sustenance. ]For women[, which act of obedience is equal in reward to this?"The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, replied:"Obeying their husbands and )being aware of and( fulfilling their rights; and few of you do that."]At-Tabaraani and 'Abdul-Raaziq[ Here, the Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, equated the reward of makingJihaadto that of the wife obeying her husband. Obedient Wives The wife who knows her religious duties towards her husband is fully aware of the importance of obeying her husband. Mrs. Maha Jaabir says, "In order to provide the family with an atmosphere of security, protection, stability and affection, the wife is required to obey her husband in everything that is useful and beneficial. This would help to create sound humans who would go through life far removed from disturbances or imbalances. In return, Islam gave the woman her full right and made it obligatory on the husband to honor his wife, safeguard her rights and provide an honorable life for her in order to be obedient and loving." Mrs. Muna Al-Mu'aththin says, If it is obligatory on the wife to obey her husband, this is only because he bears the responsibility and she is subordinate to him. He is a caretaker of his home and responsible for those who are under his charge. Moreover, he is supposed to be more insightful and more open-minded, and to know things that the wife does not know because of his wide circle of acquaintances and his wide experience that enables him to see what his wife does not. The wise wife is the one who obeys her husband, fulfills his commands and responds to his opinions and advice willingly and sincerely. If she finds something wrong in him, from her point of view, she exchanges views with him and guides him to his mistake with leniency, kindness and conviction. Calmness and soft words work like magic. The disease of conceit and arrogance may cripple a woman's heart. In this respect, Mrs. 'Abeer Murshid says, "If such a disease reaches the heart of the woman, it would be a great disaster. The marital relationship would be threatened with the most dangerous type of disputes and quarrels. The man is in charge of the family by virtue of the role that Allaah The Almighty has granted him. If the wife tries to change the Creation of Allaah and His norms, this would afflict her with the most harmful consequences." Describing the way that she treats her husband, Mrs. Leena Al-Ghadhbaan says, If my husband calls me to obey Allaah The Exalted and the Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, I respond to his call without annoyance because this is the way to salvation and forgiveness. If he asks me to wear decent clothes and adhere toHijaab, I obey his command because this is the way to attain success and the satisfaction of Allaah The Almighty. I do not care about the customs of the community as Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}And if you obey most of those upon the earth, they will mislead you from the Way of Allaah.{]Quran 6:116[ If he asks me to be moderate regarding home expenses, I respond with my heart and with love and faithfulness. These are the foundations of marital life that Allaah The Exalted Has established on affection and mercy. I know that when my husband gets angry at anything I might have done after advising and directing me, this may entails the Anger of Allaah The Exalted. Mrs. Khadeejah Hijaazi says, One may find obedience a heavy burden; however, the wife is rewarded according to the extent of her readiness to be obedient and her sincerity in fulfilling the obligations of such obedience. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, praised women and clarified that the services they perform and the sacrifices they make in terms of their emotions and energies can be made by no one else. They were created to perform a sublime and important duty, and in return Allaah The Exalted Has prepared a great reward for them. This reward would not be completed except with the wife's obedience to her husband, satisfying him and avoiding what he dislikes. Mrs. Hanaa' As-Saalih says, "The man is in charge of the family. He takes care of it and observes the morals of its members and its affairs. Hence, all the members of the family are required to obey him. He is charged with the burdens of the family and working to provide for it and fulfill its needs. In this way, the family is organized on the basis that there is a caretaker and a commander, on one hand, and subjects who listen and obey on the other." Limits of Obedience However, the obedience that is obligatory on the wife to her husband is not blind obedience or obedience without restrictions, conditions or limits. Rather, it is the obedience of the righteous wife to the righteous and pious husband whose personality she trusts and believes in his sincerity and righteousness. Obedience that is based on consultation and mutual understanding promotes the entity of the family and its conditions and reinforces its foundations and strength. The spouses are advised to consult each other with regard to all family affairs. Indeed, there is no consultant better than a faithful and truthful wife. She supports her husband, guides him with her emotions, protects him with her instinct and provides him with her opinion. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, would consult his wives and follow their opinion in important matters. He consulted his wife, Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, in a most critical situation. Her consultation and wise opinion were important in putting an end to that crisis and returning matters to normality. Finally, we find that Islam has organized the rights of spouses in such a way that if each of them perfectly fulfills the other's rights, he, as well as those around him, will live in a state of happiness. However, if one of them misuses this right, the marital life will fail as it is a partnership between the spouses. Islam acknowledges the rights of the wife over her husband just as it acknowledges the husband's rights over his wife. Additionally, it has clarified the duties of each. If both of them follow the instructions and each of them knows his Islamic rights and duties, the family will live happily and will be encompassed by tranquility and the mercy of Allaah The Almighty. /- Regards, NAJIMUDEEN M  [Editor & Publisher] |
Sunday, April 27, 2014
Marital Life, - Obeying the Husband is the Key to Paradise
The book of Prayer, - Kitaab-us-Salaat
CLEANLINESS (TAHARAT)
The Holy Prophethas stated "The key to paradise is Prayer (Salaat),
and the key to Prayer is cleanliness." (Saheeh Muslim). Here
cleanliness means that the place of Prayer and the person's clothes,
should be clean. Furthermore, the person should be clean from the
greater and smaller impurities - i.e. he should not be in need of a
bath (Ghusl) and should be with ablution (Wuzu).
The Holy Prophetsaid: "The angels of mercy do not enter a house in
which there is an image, a dog or a person in a state of greater
impurity (Janabah)." (Abu Dawood).
The water to be used
Water used for bathing or for ablution must be in its natural state -
i.e. free from colour, smell and taste. Furthermore, it must be
unused. If the body is free from impurities, the water once used for
bathing or ablution still remains pure, but cannot be used again for
bathing or ablution. Similarly if one is in need of ablution or bath,
and he dips or touches the water with any unwashed (un-purified) part
of his body (finger, nail, hand etc), it will render the water as used
- and therefore not useful for ablution or bathing. Using such water
for drinking or cooking is disliked (Makrooh). However this water can
be used for washing clothes.
In order to make "used" water capable of being used for bathing or
ablution, add clean unused water in greater quantity to it - or simply
pour more clean unused water in the utensil so that the utensil begins
to overflow. This will make the entire water usable for bathing or
ablution.
Ablution (Wuzu)
The obligations in ablution (wuzu)
The following four (4) acts are obligatory in ablution:
a.Washing the entire face: that is from the top of the forehead to the
bottom of the chin and from ear to ear. Water must flow over the
entire skin area at least once. If the moustache or eyebrows have
thick hair, it is obligatory only to wash the hair. If the hair is
sparse, the skin must also be washed. Similarly, if hair in the beard
is not thick, the inner skin must be washed. The area around the lips
which remains exposed in the natural state when the mouth is closed,
must also be washed.
b.Washing both hands, up to and including the elbows. Washing any body
part means that at least two drops of water must have flowed over each
and every spot of it (not leaving out any spot equal to the breadth of
a hair). Simply wetting the body part or spreading water over it like
oil, or the flowing of just drop is not classified as "washing" - and
will not complete the ablution or bath. All types of ornaments which
are tight to the skin must be removed and the skin below it washed, as
described above. If nail polish has been applied, ablution or bath
cannot be complete without removing it. However, ablution or bath will
be complete in cases where the thing remaining on the skin is such
that it is continuously or sometimes required and to remove it causes
a burden - whether such a thing is above or below the nails or on any
other part of the body - or whether such a thing is hard and water
does not reach the skin below it - such as dough on the hands of
kneaders, paint on the hands of a painter, henna for women, ink for
the writer, sand or mud for the labourer and kohl under the eyelids or
ordinary dirt for the common man.
c."Masah" (Stroking with wet hands) of one fourth of the head: Hands
should be wet for performing the "Masah" whether due to water
remaining from washing the hands, or by wetting them with fresh water.
If the hands remain wet after "Masah", it will not suffice for "Masah"
of any other body part.
d.Washing both feet: It is necessary to wash both feet fully - i.e.
all sides of toes, inner parts of the toes, top part of the toes,
heels, soles and the entire ankles. If water does not reach between
the toes naturally, it is necessary to do "Khilaal", i.e. pass the
little finger between them to make the water reach there.
The Sunnah (Prophet'straditions ) in ablution (wuzu)
The following acts are Sunnah (Prophet'straditions) in ablution:
*.Making an intention (Niyah) for obeying Allah and for the gaining of reward.
*.Performing ablution while sitting in a clean place.
*.Reciting "Bismillah Shareef" at the beginning of ablution.
*.Washing both hands up to the wrists.
*.Brushing the teeth with "Miswaak"
*.Rinsing the mouth thrice with water from the hand.
*.Rinsing the nose thrice by inhaling water up to the nose bone.
*.Using the right hand for inhaling water into the nose.
*.Cleaning the nose with the little finger of the left hand.
*.Inserting fingers between the spaces in the fingers and toes (to
make sure that water passes through it).
*.Running all fingers through the beard.
*.Performing "Masah" of the entire head.
*.Performing "Masah" of the ears.
*.Maintaining proper order of washing of the different body parts.
*.Washing three times each body part that needs to be washed.
*.Washing the next body part before the previous one dries.
Method of performing ablution (wuzu)
Make an intention (Niyah) for obeying Allah and for gaining of reward,
and after reciting "Bismillah Shareef", wash both hands up to the
wrists. Then brush the teeth with "Miswaak". Hold the "Miswaak" in
your right hand - little finger at the bottom, three middle fingers at
the centre, and the thumb at the top bottom side of the "Miswaak".
Begin with the right upper teeth, followed by the left upper teeth.
Then brush the right lower teeth followed by the left lower teeth.
Brushing should be in horizontal movements.
Then taking water from the cup of the hand, rinse the mouth thrice.
Then inhale water into the nose thrice and clean the nose with the
little finger of the left hand.
Then wash the entire face - that is from the top of the forehead
(where the hair begins) to the bottom of the chin and from ear to ear,
without leaving any spot equal to the breadth of a hair unwashed. If
the person is bearded, he should then run his fingers through the
beard.
After this, wash both hands, up to and including the elbows (right
hand first, followed by the left).
Then wet both hands and perform "Masah" of the entire head, as
follows: Join the tips of the three fingers of both hands (i.e. other
than the thumb and the little finger), and keeping them on the
forehead pass them over the entire head till the nape of the neck,
while keeping the palms away from the head. Pass the palms over the
nape of the neck and bring them forward. Then use the upper phalanx of
the index finger to rub the inner part of the ears and the thumb for
the back of the ears. Then use the back of the fingers to do "Masah"
of the sides of the neck.
Then wash both feet up to and including the ankles, beginning with the
right foot. Use the left hand for washing the feet. Insert the left
hand little finger between the spaces of all toes, starting from the
small toe (moving right to left) in case of the right foot, and
starting from the big toe (moving right to left) in case of the left
foot.
Upon completing ablution, make it a habit of reciting the "Kalemah
Shahadat" (The words of bearing witness) as in the Hadith there are
glad tidings of paradise for such a person.
Things that break (nullify) ablution (wuzu)
The following acts (or incidents) break the ablution:
*.Excretion of any matter from the frontal or posterior excretory organs.
*.Vomiting in mouthful quantity.
*.Discharge of blood, pus or yellowish liquid from the body - which
makes the discharge flow.
*.Sleeping while taking support from any object.
*.Flow of water from an infected eye.
*.Laughing out loud whilst in Prayer.
*.Loss of consciousness, or onset of insanity.
The excellence ofMiswaak
The Holy Prophetsaid: "If I had not found it hard for my followers or
the people, I would have ordered them to clean their teeth
withMiswaakfor every Prayer."
The Holy Prophet () also said: "Make the (brushing with) "Miswaak" a
must - for it cleans the mouth, and the Lord also gets pleased.
(Musnad Ahmed)
Scholars say that using the "Miswaak" has 70 benefits, of which one is
the remembrance of the "Kalemah Tayyebah" (the Pure Words) at the time
of death and ease in death.
Using the "Miswaak" is aSunnahin ablution. The "Miswaak" should
neither be very hard nor very soft. It is better to use "Miswaak" made
from branches of the olive, "pilu" or "neem" trees. The "Miswaak"
should be as thick as the little finger, and a maximum of one span in
length. It should also not be very short so as to make it difficult to
use.
Hold the "Miswaak" in your right hand - little finger at the bottom,
three middle fingers at the centre, and the thumb at the top bottom
side of the "Miswaak". Do not close the fist. In this way, the user
remains protected from "haemorrhoids" (piles). Brushing should be done
in 'horizontal' movements, not in the vertical. Begin with the right
upper teeth, followed by the left upper teeth. Then brush the right
lower teeth followed by the left lower teeth. All these should be done
thrice, and the "Miswaak" be rinsed every time.
BATHING
The 3 obligations on bathing (Ghusl)
a.Gargling: Water must reach right from the lips up to the base of the throat.
b.Inhaling water up to the nose bone: Water must reach through both
nostrils and wet the entire area, up to the nose bone.
c.Washing the entire body in such a manner that water flows over every
part of the body, not leaving dry any spot equal to the breadth of a
hair.
If any food particles are stuck in the teeth, these must be removed.
Likewise the nose must be cleaned from any dust stuck inside it, and
then the nose washed with water up to the beginning of the nose bone.
However, care must be exercised during fasting so as not to overdo it.
Bathing (Ghusl) according toSunnah
Make an intention (Niyah) for bathing and at first wash both hands up
to and including the wrists. Then wash the excretory organs even if
there is no impurity. Then cleanse the body area that has any impurity
and perform the ablution, without washing the feet. If having a bath
on a stand (high area) you may wash the feet too. Next, rub water
(like applying oil) on the body to wet it. Then pour water thrice over
the right shoulder followed by thrice over left shoulder. After this,
pour water over the head thrice and then thrice properly over the
entire body. Rub the hands over the entire body to ensure that no spot
equal to the breadth of a hair remains dry. If the feet had not been
washed at ablution, wash them after moving away from the bathing spot.
While bathing take care that you should not be facing the "Qiblah",
nor speak nor recite any supplications. Also bathe in a place where
there is no exposure.
Things that make bathing compulsory
*.Discharge of semen in state of sexual excitement.
*.Ejaculation while asleep.
*.Intercourse with either sex, whether semen is discharged or not.
*.Woman completing her menses.
*.Stoppage of impurity for a woman after childbirth (or miscarriage etc.).
Tayammum(Purification with soil)
The time forTayammum(When can one doTayammum??)
A person in need of bathing or ablution must do "Tayammum" if he is
incapable of using water. Some important conditions of performing
"Tayammum" are as follows:
*.There should be no sign (or knowledge) of water being available for
a distance of at least one mile, in all the four directions.
*.An illness which would get severely aggravated or get prolonged upon
using water. This could be the person's own judgement from experience
or the opinion of a pious reliable doctor.
*.Extreme cold which could cause the person to die or fall ill if he
takes a bath, and no warm blankets are available to keep out the cold
after bathing.
*.Danger of missing the train or bus etc., if he alights from it in
order to use water.
*.Danger of missing the Fajr (Dawn) Prayer or the congregational Prayers of Eid.
Method and some important rules regardingTayammum
Three things are obligatory in "Tayammum"
a.Making an intention (Niyah) that the particular "Tayammum" is for
ablution or for bath or for both.
b.Passing soiled palms over the entire face, not leaving out a single
spot equal to the breadth of a hair.
c.Passing soiled palms over both arms up to and including the elbows,
not leaving out a single spot equal to the breadth of a hair.
At first, make an intention and after reciting "Bismillah Shareef",
strike the hands on any solid matter which is related to the earth
i.e. soil, mud, stones, marble or any such thing upon which is
considerable dust. If the hands get soiled with too much dust, strike
the base of one thumb upon the base of the other to loosen it. Then
pass both hands over the entire face, not leaving out even a single
spot equal to the breadth of a hair. The area around the lips which
remains exposed in the natural state when the mouth is closed, should
also be covered in this "Masah". If the person is bearded, he should
then run his fingers through the beard.
Strike the hands again on the soil. Now perform "Masah" of the right
arm, by placing the inner portion of all fingers, except the thumb, on
the outer portion of the right arm. Pass the left hand fingers over
the finger tips of the right arm up to the elbow. Coming back from the
elbow pass the palm over the inner side of the right arm up to the
wrist. Then do "Masah" of the right thumb using the inner side of the
left thumb. Similarly, repeat the entire process for the left arm.
While striking the palms on the soil or mud, the fingers must be kept
open. If dust has reached between the fingers, "Khilaal" should be
done (by rubbing other fingers between them). If the palm had been
struck on stone or other such thing by which dust does not reach
between the fingers, then "Khilaal" becomes obligatory.
Women should take extra care during "Tayammum" by moving ornaments
(such as rings) in order not to leave the area below them - whereas
nail polish should be totally removed.
If cold water is harmful in sickness, warm water should be used if
available. If warm water is unavailable, "Tayammum" should be done.
If any portion is covered by a bandage (or plaster) because of an
injury, then "Masah" with wet hands should be done over such bandage -
and the rest of the body washed as usual with water. If pouring water
does not cause harm, water should be poured over such bandage. In due
course if it is not harmful to do "Masah" over the injured part,
"Masah" should be adopted immediately. Later when washing the injured
portion will not cause harm, it will become obligatory to wash it. It
should therefore be understood that when the ability exists, the
superior act must be performed and the lesser act will no more
suffice.
If very little time is left for offering Prayer, and it is feared that
the time will lapse if one takes a bath or performs ablution, one must
perform the "Tayammum" and offer the Prayer. It is however incumbent
to repeat such Prayer after proper bathing or ablution.
If the excuse due to which "Tayammum" was done does not remain any
more, it will make the "Tayammum" invalid. The occurrence of anything
that breaks the ablution will also break the "Tayammum" which was done
in place of ablution. Similarly the occurrence of anything which makes
bathing compulsory will break the "Tayammum" which was done in place
of bathing.
Purifying impure clothes
To purify an impure cloth, first wash it properly and then squeeze it
with full strength until water does not drip from it any more, even if
further strength is applied. Then wash the hands, and again wash the
cloth, squeezing it with full strength until water does not drip from
it any more even if further strength is applied. Wash the hands again
and wash the cloth for a third time - then squeeze it with full
strength until water does not drip from it any more even if further
strength is applied. The cloth has now become pure.
If a person has applied full strength to squeeze out water from the
cloth, it will be pure for him - but if another person having more
strength squeezes it and some more water drips from it, then the cloth
will be pure only for the former and not for the latter.
This rule should be remembered well. Every person should purify his /
her own clothes or else purify them in running water. The method of
doing this is to at first wash the clothes with soap or in a washing
machine, and then put them in a utensil (e.g. bucket) and pour water
into the utensil until the cloth gets covered in the water and the
utensil starts overflowing. The flowing water will render the cloth
pure.
Fine clothes, shoes, carpets etc., which get damaged due to wringing /
squeezing, must be washed and dried until water does not drip from it
any more. Then wash again and let it dry a second time. Then wash
again and let it dry for a third time. This will make it pure.
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