People imitate and internalize what is depicted on television through
serials and movies. Such media spreads misleading and deviated ideas
that tempt women and encourage them to rebel against religion and
sound principles and to reject the guardianship of men, and ask for
their "freedom". They also display indecent clothes that are similar
to men's wear in the name of fashion.
Many women are affected by what is presented in the mass media and
they consequently rebel against religion, morals and the guardianship
of men. They imitate the morals of dissolute women and their attitudes
without thinking or distinguishing between good and evil. Hence, women
who are dressed and behave like men have emerged in recent times. This
is the result of blind imitation and weakness of their personality and
as a consequence of not being proud of their religion.
* Bad company:
The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"One adopts the
habits and ways of his friend, so be careful with whom you make
friends."Bad companions, undoubtedly, have a great effect on growing
girls as they acquire bad qualities and corrupt morals from them. For
instance, the girl who accompanies boyish girls is affected by the way
they dress or behave, so as not to appear strange or odd among them.
Hence, parents should be careful and choose righteous girls who are
engaged in beneficial activities such as going to Quran centers and
mosques to be the companions of their daughters.
* A feeling of inferiority and the desire to attract attention:
If a girl suffers from lack of friends or feels inferior, she would do
anything to attract the attention ofpeople. If a girl's physical
appearance has something that resembles men and as a result, if any of
her family or friends mocks her for this, she will have no
self-confidence and this will lead her to imitate men. In such cases,
parents are advised to be gentle towards girls and shower them with
love and compassion so that they would not seek the approval and
appreciation of strangers, such as evil-minded people who would
corrupt them and take advantage of them.
* Lack of Positive Role Models:
Being around good role models is one of the most important factors
that contribute towards righteous upbringing. Sometimes the mother
might act in an unfeminine manner herself and her daughters would
naturally imitate her as girls usually acquire their personalities
from their mothers. For instance, if the mother undermines the
authority of her husband and does not respect him, most probably her
daughters would not appreciate their husbands either. Similarly, if
the mother is loud-mouthed in her speech and raises her voice, her
daughter will acquire this attribute. This also applies to imitating
men and any other characteristic.
* Lack of protective zeal on the part of her husband or guardian:
Some men do not prevent their women from violating the orders of
Allaah The Almighty regarding Hijaab )Islamic covering( and they do
not feel any sense of protectiveness even when the women in their
guardianship behave improperly. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, said:"Three )types of people( will not enter Paradise and
Allaah will not look at them on the Day of Judgment: the one who is
undutiful to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the Dayyooth
)a man who approves of indecency among his womenfolk(."
Aspects of assuming a masculine attitude:
Nowadays, women have started to imitate men in more than one aspect.
This imitation is no longer restricted to the way they dress, but it
includes many other aspects; some of these are:
* Imitating men in the way they dress: Women have started to wear
clothes that are similar to those of men, such as trousers. Abu
Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of
Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Cursed is the man who
wears the clothes of women and the woman who wears the clothes of
men."Women also imitate men by wearing footwear that are similar to
what men wear. 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, was asked
about the woman who wears the sandals of men, so she said:"The
Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, cursed the women
who assume a masculine attitude."
Unfortunately, nowadays, there are many shoes that have unusual shapes
that any sensible man would disdain from wearing, nevertheless, many
women buy them.
* Intermixing with men in markets and public places: Some women do not
feel shy about standing in the same line with men, sitting beside
them, especially in shops, or speaking with salesmen as if they were
her Mahram )non-marriageable( men.
* Speaking loudly and arguing with men: Some women speak in a loud
voice that could be heard by any one even though women are known for
their low and gentle voices and it is known that they should avoid
speaking with non-Mahram )marriageable( men.
* Imitating men in the way they walk, move and the way they have their
hair cut: Some women walk like men in the way they stride and make the
same movements of men that show strength and toughness. Some of them
have even taken up traditionally male sports like Karate,
weightlifting, track and field events and football in an attempt to
imitate men.
* Toughness in dealing with others: Some women behave like men with
their relatives. They are stubborn; bad tempered and do not talk
respectfully or appreciatively with anyone. These qualities are
dispraised when they are adopted by men, let alone women.
* Abandoning adornment that is peculiar to women such as Henna and
Kuhl. This makes women similar to men in the way they look. 'Aa'ishah,
may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "A woman made a sign from behind
a curtain to indicate that she had a letter for the Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, closed his hand, saying:'I do not know whether this is a man's
or a woman's hand.' She said, 'No, a woman.' He said: 'If you were a
woman, you would have different nails )because of the Henna you
apply(.'"
* Refusing the authority of men or the care of the guardian: Some
women do not accept to be under the guardianship of a man, but they
want absolute freedom without taking permission or consulting their
guardian.
Women who assume a masculine attitude and abandon modesty become like
a tree that does not have its bark and will soon die. Masculine women
speak with anybody about anything, and go everywhere without being
bashful. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"The
following statement belonging to the early prophets is from among what
the people have retained, 'If you do not feel shy, then, do whatever
you like.'"
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Regards,
NAJIMUDEEN M/
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